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Feminine Script for When He Asks for S*x in Early Dating @SamiWunder #datinginyour30s #datingtips

26 Feb 2023 · 1 min

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In this short video clip, dating coach Sami Wunder explains that women should prioritize how early sexual advances—whether sex, sexting, or sexual conversation—make them feel. She notes that many women feel uncomfortable when a man pushes for intimacy before they know him well. To address this, she offers a gentle, respectful boundary script (referred to as "boundary number 4") that women can use: “I’m flattered, and I like to move slow in this department. Is this okay with you? Can you work with this? I’d really value that.” Sami emphasizes that using such language preserves dignity, confidence, and self‑respect. The segment ends with a lyrical line from a second speaker, adding a poetic touch but not contributing to the advice.

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They ask me, you know, Sami, what's your stance towards early sex? And while that's a video by itself and a conversation by itself, I think what is really important is that women honor how sex or sexting or sexual chats make them feel. And so often women feel very uncomfortable when they hardly know a guy and he's starting to go in that direction. So here's a really soft, boundary, um, you can put boundary number 4. I'm flattered, and I like to move slow in this department. Is this okay with you? Can you work with this? I'd really value that. Oh, so much dignity, so much confidence. I love it. I hope you do too.
Say you'll remember me standing in a nice dress staring at the sunset, baby.