Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Gift men with your warmth & authenticity

14 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Sami Wunder examines the popular dating advice that women should never chase, pursue, or initiate contact with men. She acknowledges that the principle of "leaning back" can protect women from neediness, but argues that merely staying passive leads to stalled love lives when men fail to take the lead. Wunder emphasizes that while maintaining feminine energy through leaning back, women must still actively "gift" men with warmth, authenticity, emotional openness, and joy. This expression of feminine energy, she claims, is essential for creating connection without appearing needy, and it balances the passive stance with an active, genuine presence.

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The idea of not chasing a guy, not pursuing a guy, not calling first, not texting first, not asking him for the date— this is actually a well-intentioned idea which was supposed to help women to not go needy and crazy and start chasing and pursuing men. Women in today's world are not pursuing men, not chasing men, but nothing happens for them in their love life. You will make the first move, have 1 or 2 text messages back and forth, and then nothing happens. The guy doesn't take the lead. You meet somebody nice at a party, but you keep leaning back and nothing happens. Leaning back is valuable. Not chasing a man is valuable. valuable, but even more valuable is to understand that just because you're leaning back in your Feminine Energy doesn't mean that you don't gift men with your warmth, with your authenticity, with the free flow of emotion and joy, which is the natural essence of a Feminine Energy embodied woman.