Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Has he committed to you?

5 Mar 2024 · 0 min

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In this brief monologue, relationship coach Sami Wunder introduces the "Commitment card" concept, explaining that some men will only offer commitment when they genuinely feel ready to bond and are prepared to sacrifice personal freedom for the value a partner brings. He highlights that power dynamics operate on both sides of dating: women may withhold sex while men may withhold commitment, framing these as reciprocal "power plays" that can be uncomfortable but are common in modern dating.

The man has the Commitment card. This means that he will only offer commitment when he is really feeling it and he's really ready to bond and he really feels like he's ready to give up his freedom for the joy and value you bring into his life. The power plays exist on both sides, and it may not be very pleasant to hear, but this does happen in dating, where women hold back sex and men hold back commitment. I don't listen.