Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

He has stopped chasing you? Here's why! 🧐 🤯

1 Aug 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment of her dating advice video, Sami Wunder explains that a common reason a man may stop pursuing a woman is that she unintentionally projects neediness. She attributes this to a subconscious scarcity mindset that arises when women, feeling they have few quality options, hyper‑focus on a promising partner. This heightened excitement and investment radiates an energy of neediness, which men can sense and find unattractive. Wunder emphasizes that this dynamic is not a personal flaw but a by‑product of operating from scarcity, and she cautions viewers not to self‑judge while recognizing the pattern.

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Reason #1 why he has stopped chasing: You came across as needy in your energy. Now, I don't want you to judge yourself. In the dating process, you probably don't meet as many good men, and so you are usually operating, without realizing, subconsciously, from the energy of scarcity. And so when this great guy comes along, and you see potential, and you see he can be your partner, and there is real Possibility here. It is very possible that you hyperfocus on the man, you get really excited and really invested, and basically that energy drips off as neediness. And men can pick up on energy, you know, like how bears can pick up on honey. When we're in that needy scarcity energy, men can spot that. And to be very honest, it's not very attractive.