Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

He is emotionally unavailable

2 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment of her dating‑advice video, Sami Wunder explains that a man's open admission of emotional unavailability is a clear sign he is only interested in a sexual relationship. She lists the typical excuses men give—prioritizing work, health, kids, or a recent divorce—to signal that they cannot make a partner a priority. Wunder warns that many women ignore these cues because they hope the man will change or become the ‘one,’ but she stresses that such hopes are unrealistic. The core message is that when a man repeatedly emphasizes that he is looking for something casual and cannot prioritize a relationship, it is a strong indicator his involvement is purely physical, and she advises women to recognize and act on this red flag.

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Sign #4 that a guy just wants sex with you is when he openly admits that he is emotionally unavailable. So often, men are giving us all the signs. They're saying to us, right now, work is a priority. Right now, I've just gotten out of a divorce. I'm just looking for something casual. I'm not really looking for something serious. I really have to focus on sorting out things with my ex. Focus on exercising, my health. Basically telling you in different ways, don't expect a commitment from me. My work is a priority. My health is a priority. My kids are a priority. My divorce is a priority, you're not going to be a priority. And so many women just brush over these details because we like the guy, right? We like to believe that he can be the one, that we can be that beautiful woman for him that will inspire him to become a better person and become more emotionally available. But it's not going to happen. And this is such a clear sign that if he is still engaging with you while saying, I'm not saying I'm not looking for something serious, I'm looking for something casual, it's a clear sign that this person is only in the connection for sex.