Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

He will NOT bond with you

29 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, relationship coach Sami Wunder explains that when a woman attempts to demonstrate love by fixing a man's problems, offering solutions, or rescuing him, the man often interprets these actions as a sign that she does not trust his ability to handle his own challenges. This perceived lack of trust makes the man feel incapable and diminishes his sense of competence, which in turn prevents the formation of a bond with an "empowered masculine" partner. Wunder argues that such problem‑solving behavior is unattractive and counterproductive to building a healthy, trusting relationship.

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What you perceive as showing your love to a man and being helpful by fixing his problems, rescuing him, coming up with solutions and ideas to help him alleviate the pain he is having from the struggles he shared with you, he perceives it very differently. A man, when a woman tries to help him, perceives it as a lack of trust. So a man feels like you don't trust him to solve his own problems. You see him as not capable to find the solutions to his problems. And this is why you're coming up with all these solutions and ideas on how he could resolve his challenge. That is not a very attractive quality to possess. You are not forming a bond with an empowered masculine man if he is in your presence feeling as though you don't trust him and you don't see him as capable enough.