Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

hes not serious about you

12 Mar 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment, Sami Wunder explains the concept of a "situationship," describing it as a romantic arrangement where there is no discussion of future plans, exclusivity, or commitment. She outlines the typical behavior of men who prefer this setup—enjoying the present without any intention of progressing toward marriage, cohabitation, or a long‑term vision. Wunder emphasizes that a situationship is acceptable only if both parties are content with the lack of future planning. The problem arises when one person desires more depth or a defined future while the other remains focused solely on the present, leading to emotional mismatch and potential hurt.

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that there is rarely ever a talk about the future. In other words, you may be sleeping with this man, you may be visiting his home regularly, he may be visiting you regularly, but there is literally never any conversation about what happens over the next few months, what happens over the next year. There is no plan, there is no vision for the future. Now, men who tend to be actively choosing situationships actually are really happy about this kind of arrangement with a woman, There's never been any talk of exclusivity. There's never been any talk of commitment, marriage, moving in, living together. So there is literally no plan for the future. And this is a classic example of being in a situationship. If this is what you want, then there is nothing wrong with it. But the problem starts when you want more, but he's not in it for more. He's only in it for the present moment.