Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

How Long Should You Make A Guy Wait To Sleep With Him

24 May 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment of her YouTube video, Sami Wunder addresses a common perception among many men that women who have sex very early in dating (e.g., on date #1, #2, or #3) are "easy material" and therefore not suitable as long‑term, "wife material" partners. She acknowledges that this viewpoint can be uncomfortable for feminists, but she frames it as a practical reality in the dating market. Wunder advises women who enjoy early sexual intimacy to intentionally hold off on sex for at least the first three dates. By doing so, they allow an emotional connection to develop, which can prevent men from labeling them as low‑value and increase the likelihood of attracting the type of partner they desire.

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But somehow, you know, so many amazing men still continue to have the perception that if a woman is sleeping with a guy too quickly on date #1, date #2, date #3, then she is easy material and she's not wife material. Now, this can be hard for the feminists among us to hear. I totally hear you. And here's the thing, if you find that you are really enjoying sex in early dating, then my recommendation in these scenarios would be to literally Hold out for at least date 1, 2, and 3, so that there is some kind of emotional connection that is also building up for the man. Otherwise, you do run down the trap of men seeing the quick sleeping as a low-value behavior, and that is not good for your success, especially for the kind of men that you're looking for.