In this testimonial, Shahrazad from Toronto recounts her experience working with relationship coach Sami Wunder. She describes a history of long‑term relationships that ended poorly despite following conventional dating advice. Sami identified Shahrazad’s underlying fear‑based patterns and the "nice‑girl" programming that forced her to be inauthentic, suppress her needs, and avoid conflict. Through coaching, Shahrazad learned to express her desires, set boundaries, and love herself authentically, which she says made her partner more attracted to her and deepened their connection. She recommends Sami’s ebook "The Feminine Roadmap to His Commitment," her affirmations, and private coaching for women seeking similar breakthroughs, emphasizing that self‑love is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.
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Hi, this is Shahrazad from Toronto, and today I wanted to share with you my experience with working with Sami. So before finding Sami, I had gone through a few long-term relationships that didn't exactly have happy endings, and I couldn't understand why, because according to all the books, The articles and the videos that I had watched from different coaches, I was doing everything right. I was the perfect girlfriend and I couldn't understand why at the end I always end up breaking up with my, my partners and why things don't go the way that I wanted it to go. So I definitely felt that something was missing, and then luckily Sami came to my life. And when I read her writings, watched her videos, and saw how she interacted with the members of her group, I found that there's a connection, that her, her methods were really resonating With me, so I really had this urge to reach out to her, and I'm so glad that I did. Very quickly, Sami found what was it that was blocking me from having the relationship that I wanted, a harmonious and a healthy relationship. She found that it wasn't because I wasn't Nice enough or I wasn't doing enough or if there was something wrong with my men, which definitely wasn't, that it was in fact my own fears that were blocking me from having what I really, really wanted. And it also was my programming, the way I was programmed to believe that good girlfriends never say no, that good girlfriends Step over their own feelings and always put on a smile and act that everything is okay because men only love happy girls. And that good girlfriends make life so easy and convenient for their men because that would give them a little preview of what's gonna be if they stick around, so hopefully they would. Or that Good girlfriends walk on eggshells and never rock the boat, never fight, because men hate conflict. So as you can see, I had forced myself to become so inauthentic, and Sami was very quick to find it. She showed me being too nice is doing the very thing that I don't want. It was causing me to become So resentful and angry inside, and it was the pattern that I had gone through for the past 14 years. And here's the thing: even if the man that you're with is somehow okay with the with the fake version of you, there will come a time that you get sick of your. Self, that fake version, inauthentic version of yourself, and that's when the relationship falls apart. And my God, it is so liberating to actually be able to be yourself and not put on an act. And it does quite the opposite. It makes your man become more attracted to you, and it just deepens your love. So, it's not that I've become a mean woman or anything, but Sami showed me that my, my needs, my wants matter, my desires matter. And if I feel hurt, I have every right to speak up and effectively communicate this with him, which, which he showed me how to do. And, uh, I don't have to hide any part of me for him to love me. And... And this, it's just so wonderful. It's so freeing. And, um, it's just the best gift that you can give to yourself and to your relationship when you fully love who you are and show up as who you are. So that's why I made this video to ask you to really love yourself. Because if you don't truly love yourself, then you can't expect another human being to love you wholeheartedly, right? It's just impossible. Really invest in yourself. Take every step that you can. If you were lucky enough to find Sami, then get her support. Read her awesome ebook, The Feminine Roadmap to His Commitment. It's a really good start to understand feminine energy. Listen to her affirmations, which will actually plant the seed, of self-love in your subconscious, so it comes so naturally after listening to it over and over again. And if you need more help, if there is something that is blocking you and you're going through the same patterns in life, then I would definitely recommend working with Sami privately. And because every woman is different, we, we We go through different things in life and we— our beliefs are different. So it's just really, really worth every penny because it'll free you and it'll give you the guidance that you need to have a fulfilling relationship and other relationships in your life and other aspects of your life. So with this, I'll close. And I can never Thank Sami enough, and I hope you all feel the way I feel today. And, um, that's it. Thank you for watching. Thank you.
