Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

How To Be Mysterious When Texting A Man

28 Apr 2023 · 1 min

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In this YouTube segment, dating coach Sami Wunder explains why women should avoid flooding a man with numerous glamorous photos and personal details via text. She argues that men value what they have to work for; when a woman sends a barrage of images or reveals her social circle without being asked, the man doesn’t earn the content and therefore devalues it. Instead, she advises women to withhold some visual and personal information, letting the man make the effort to court, arrange dates, and earn the privilege of seeing her at her best. By keeping details limited and maintaining mystery, a woman preserves her allure and ensures the man appreciates her when he finally does see her in a beautiful dress or learns about her life.

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Because you would think that if you would send him all the photographs that you have in your sexy, pretty dresses, and with your girlfriends, and looking glamorous, that should turn him on, right? That should make him come for you. But quite the opposite. Men value what they work for. And so if you give all the details on a platter to him, if you give him all your beautiful photographs, even without him asking for it, he's not earned it. He's not earned it, and he's not going to value it. And when a man works to see you in that beautiful dress, You know, when he makes effort to go on a date with you, to court you, to please you, that's when he deserves a bite of the amazingness that you are. But until then, you want to, you know, tone down the details. Don't send all those photographs. Don't show him who your friends are. Don't reveal everything about your life over texting. Remember to keep it mysterious.