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How To Get More Affection From Your Man @SamiWunder #relationshipskills #saveyourmarriage #lovecoach

29 Dec 2022 · 1 min

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In this segment, the relationship coach introduces the "Christmas tree response," a method for encouraging a partner’s affectionate behavior without assigning blame or responsibility. The speaker explains that when a partner initiates a touch, kiss, or action that feels good, the listener should react enthusiastically—likening the feeling to a Christmas tree lighting up—and then use inclusive phrasing such as "We should do more of this" or "We should do this more often." This approach reinforces the positive behavior, frames it as a shared desire, and avoids making the partner feel pressured, thereby increasing the likelihood of repeated affectionate actions.

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Christmas tree response is whenever your partner does what does feel good, whenever your partner touches you in a way that feels good, whenever your partner kisses you in a way that feels good, you light up like a Christmas tree. Yay! Okay, so you wanna say, oh, that feels so good. We should do more of this. Ooh, note the word I said. I said, we should do this more. We should do this more often, right? Look, I'm not saying you should do it more often. You should do more of this. We should do more of this. It's very clever, yeah? And it's very clever because it doesn't put the blame on him and it doesn't put the responsibility on him, yeah?