How to Text a Man to Keep Him Interested (5 Texting Secrets)

You've met somebody really interesting, and now you want to know the texting secrets to keep him interested. Well, the Universe has sent you to the right place, because in this video, that's exactly what I'm going to be talking about— my 5 top texting secrets to keep him interested and to keep him coming for you and to keep the pursuit on. Welcome, everybody, to my channel. This is dating and relationship expert Sami Wunder. I specialize in helping high-achieving women cracked the code to romantic success. My results show that what I teach my clients actually truly works. Just go check out my website, samiwunder.com, and just see the number of rings and happy marriages my Soulmate Attraction process boasts of. All right, so without wasting any further time, just a quick reminder, make sure you have hit the Like button, the Subscribe button, and also the bell icon, so that every time I produce new, amazing, helpful content, you get a notification from YouTube. All right, so let's get started. Texting secret #1: Send playful and fun texts. In other words, think about the purpose of texting. The purpose of texting is to elicit a positive emotional response from the man on the other side. Now, I, in my work, repeatedly teach my clients that texting is not the place where a real relationship is building. A real relationship is only building face-to-face. However, texting today has become a really powerful medium to evoke positive emotional responses in the times that we spend in between in-person dates. I always tell my clients to avoid sending any sobby, miserable, heavy texts, because when the other person is not in front of you, it is so easy to misread texts, And this is why it's so important that all the heavy stuff, or whatever it is that needs to be sorted between a man and a woman, is done on a face-to-face date. And we use texting as a secret opportunity to connect, to have fun, and to keep a man interested in us. For this, I suggest 2 types of texts. The first one is the texts where you give him a funny name. I remember a client who called her guy Mr. Sherlock Holmes because he had this love of hats that he used to wear. And so she started to call him Sherlock Holmes, and it became a really sweet joke between the two of them, and something that elicited a positive response from his side, made him smile, made her smile, and everybody was happy. So you may want to think of giving a nickname to the guy you like and using that as a little insider secret in your texting. Another idea to keep it playful and keep it fun is to sometimes get a little more formal. So maybe you want to Not just Dr. Robert, you want to talk to Mr. Robert Wills. This is the art of flirting, but I think it's also the art of confidence, and it's also the art of remembering that men love playful energy. And playful energy is such a huge part of feminine energy. If you can crack a joke, if you can bring a smile to a man's face, you are doing texting right. Now, texting secret #2 to keep him interested is to actually send short texts. This is counterintuitive sometimes, because when we like a guy and we want to keep him interested, our instinct goes against us, because our instinct tells us that if you like a man, you should be putting more effort, and you should be showing him how interested you are by sending him long, thoughtful texts. Well, wrong! Red alert! You do not want to be the woman who is sending long paragraphs to a man. Instead, you want to be the woman who does Precise talking, short texting, not spending time crafting very long, very huge texts, because that energy stinks of over-effort, and over-effort stinks of over-investment. And when a man feels like we are over-invested, his attraction starts to fall, which is what we don't want. We want to be the balanced, cool, diva, detached energy girl that he is pursuing and he is coming towards. You want to keep your texts max to 2 sentences long, 1 sentence, 2 sentences long. So that's more or less the template I teach my clients to talk in. And you can just train yourself to talk in short sentences. You don't have to be rude. You don't have to be cold, but you don't have to be overgiving and over-efforting on your texts. Now, texting secret #3 is to keep the mystery alive. So how do we keep the mystery alive. In early dating, in early relationships, mystery is priceless, because when you stay in that zone of intrigue around men, their imagination gets fired up. That's when they think about you. That's when they wonder who you are, what are you like in a private setting, what are you like when you're dealing with your family, and they don't have all this information. And so they think about it, and their mind tries to extrapolate, and that's when you are hitting 2 birds with one stone. You are keeping your value alive, and you are keeping him hooked and interested, because you are maintaining your mystery factor. So how do you maintain your mystery factor when you are texting? So when it comes to texting, I believe one texting secret that not many experts are talking about is, you know, this whole idea of not sending too many photographs of yourself and not revealing too many details of all that you're doing. This can feel counterintuitive, because you would think that if you would send him all the photographs that you have in your sexy, pretty dresses, that should turn him on, right? That should make him come for you. But quite the opposite. I have learned in my years of experience and having helped so many hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of women find soulmate love, that men value what they work for. And so if you give all the details on a platter to him, even without him asking for it, he's not earned it. He's not earned it, and he's not going to value it. And when a man works to see you in that beautiful dress, when he makes effort to go on a date with you, to court you, to please you, that's when he deserves a bite of the amazingness that you are. Now, texting secret #4 is about having a busy and happy life by yourself, which has nothing to do with your phone. So it sounds funny, and perhaps you were looking just for how to talk to a man, but in my experience, it's so important that my clients learn to put the phone down and to just forget about the guy they like for some time. And this doesn't mean you have to forget about your phone for days, but it does mean that you are a Diva with a busy life, social life, friends, yoga, travel, whatever it is that turns you on, your work, your passions, your career, so that you are not constantly Texting with the guy you like. That feels like playing games because we're so stuck on our phone and we're so constantly available, and that is what is not high value. So you want to not be that available, and the way to do this authentically, so that it doesn't feel like you're playing games or being strategic around it, is to actually have a busy and full life, right? I remember when I was dating my husband, I would just see my phone, see what he had written, and then I would reply, and then I would just put the phone away. And then I would go read a book, go for a walk with my friends. I was living in Switzerland back then. And when I would come back to my phone, but like after 3-4 hours, I would see that he had messaged again. Then I would look at the message, and I would like dance and feel happy about it, but I would still take my time to respond. Everything falls into place naturally and doesn't feel like a strategy when you actually have a busy life. Because if you don't have a busy life and you're just stuck on your phone, all day long— saying this with love, I've been there myself— then it's just very natural to get into this, you know, texting zone where you are responding to every message he sends, even if it's not worth responding to, because there's no effort that's been put in that message. If you don't want to fall into the trap of doing all of those things, the best thing is to have that text exchange and then to move on and focus on something different and focus on having a great busy life yourself. Texting secret #5: Less is more. Texting should be used minimally. A, either because there is some positive emotional connection that's going on over texting, or B, because you have to plan— he has to plan the logistics of the date with you. Apart from that, I am such a huge fan, ladies, of all you wonderful women getting to know men face to face. Because what happens so many times in today's world, we're interacting so much with Skype, FaceTime, WhatsApp, we have forgotten that real relationships are built in person. And so many women who find my work and go to samiwunder.com and read my articles and do my programs, they often come with the pain of having fallen for men virtually. Which means that they texted a lot with a guy who said a lot of nice things over the phone, and then when it came to taking action, boom, there was nothing there. And while the relationship was only virtual, and so in my world, it did not exist, for my clients, for my community, the pain is real, because the heartbreak that happens because of falling for a man over texting is real for these women. So your best bet, ladies, is to keep the texting minimal, focus on answering texts that make sense to answer. Either they're positive, elicit an emotional response from you, they inspire you, that's why you're responding, or because they're about, when are we seeing each other next? So, my loves, these were my top 5 texting secrets to keep him interested. If this was helpful for you, make sure you like the video, leave a comment, and do not forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel. Now, before you leave, I have a quick free gift for you that you're very welcome to download. It's called From Single to Soulmate. Now, this is my webinar training, lasting 1 entire hour, that I'm offering to you completely free of cost on my website. So all you have to do is click on the link below, and inside I give you the 3 shifts, powerful shifts, that you can make as a single woman today, in order to move closer to your dream of attracting your soulmate. 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