Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

If you are on his mind...

6 Jul 2025 · 1 min

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In this short YouTube segment, relationship coach Sami Wunder argues that women tend to over‑complicate men by projecting their own emotional layers onto them. She claims men are fundamentally straightforward: if a man is thinking about a woman, he will reach out; if he isn’t, she won’t hear from him. Consequently, she advises women to stop over‑analyzing or psycho‑analyzing a man’s behavior and to avoid staying with anyone who won’t make the minimal effort to stay in touch via text. The core message is to recognize the simplicity of men’s communication style and to prioritize partners who demonstrate basic, consistent contact.

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As women, we tend to complicate men. We tend to look at men like we look at ourselves, and we are complex creatures. We have so many layers to ourselves. We have so many emotions, and we think that men are the same way. But that is simply not true. Men are very straightforward creatures. You know, if you're on his mind, you're going to hear from him. And if you're not on his mind, you're not going to hear from him. And so if you're not hearing from him, it's because he doesn't want to text you. It's important that you stop yourself from overanalyzing or psychoanalyzing what's going on. And you don't want to be with a man who doesn't want to even make the minimum effort of staying in touch and texting you.