Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

If you do this, you will LOSE him...

21 Mar 2025 · 1 min

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In this solo relationship‑advice monologue, Sami Wunder cautions viewers against making comparative remarks about a partner’s past relationships or other men when they are angry or frustrated. She explains that such comments—like saying an ex could do something better or that a neighbor’s husband is more capable—are tempting in the heat of the moment but are deeply insulting to a "healthy masculine" man. These comparisons can trigger insecurity, erode confidence, and have broader negative repercussions for the relationship. Wunder urges listeners to recognize the impulse, pause, and avoid any comparisons, emphasizing that no man appreciates being measured against another.

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When you feel angry, when you feel activated, when you feel charged, that is so tempting. It is so tempting to tell a man, my ex used to be able to do this, but you don't do that. Or, that man— have you seen the neighbor's husband? He's always doing X and Y, but you're never doing it. I know it's tempting, but do not do it. It's really insulting, especially if you have a healthy masculine man that you're dealing with, to have your partner or your wife tell you that that man is better than you. And it actually can instigate insecurity within men, and it can have greater repercussions in your relationship. So that moment of anger, or that moment of frustration that you're having, try to avoid comparing a man to another man. There is no man I know that likes it.