Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

In love with a married man or he has a girlfriend? Watch this ...

27 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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In this solo commentary, Sami Wunder discusses the rare but often painful scenario of falling in love with a married man. She acknowledges that while some stories claim a married partner leaves everything for the lover, the majority end in emotional misery for all involved—the lover, the married individual, and the spouse or girlfriend. Wunder argues that true "high value" should not be measured solely by physical attractiveness or the ability to attract men, but by a person's understanding of boundaries and respect. She emphasizes empathy by urging listeners to imagine themselves in the spouse's position, considering how they would feel if another woman were texting and flirting with their partner. Using the golden rule, she advises against engaging in or encouraging such behavior, positioning respect and empathy as core relationship principles.

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There are those few rare cases where you fell in love with a married man and he left everything for you. It does happen once in a blue moon, but in the majority of cases, it ends up in a bad, sad emotional misery for both parties involved, and it hurts people. It hurts you, it hurts him, it hurts the partner who is involved. So ideally, this is not a recommended track, and ideally, We don't want to just think of high value as being a woman who looks hot and a woman who is attractive and can play a man. We want to think of high value as also a person who understands boundaries, who understands respect. And I always feel like in relationships, it's important to ask yourself, how would you feel tomorrow if you were in that wife or girlfriend's position? How would you feel? if there was another woman who was texting your guy because she felt this undeniable attraction with him, and then she wanted to flirt with him, and then she wanted to take things to the next level. So I always like to treat people the way I would like to be treated, and I would personally never like to be in a position where somebody else is doing that to my man, and so I would never like to do that to another man, and I would never like to do that to another woman.