Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Is He Doing the Bare Minimum?

9 Feb 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Sami Wunder describes a pattern where some men provide only the "bare minimum" in dating—sporadic texts, infrequent date invitations, and inconsistent communication. These men are not looking for a genuine relationship but rather for validation and attention from attractive women. Wunder explains that when women respond positively to these minimal gestures, it reinforces the men's belief that they are still "hooked" and encourages the cycle of minimal effort. The segment highlights the psychological dynamics behind this behavior and warns women about the pitfalls of rewarding such minimal engagement.

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They are going to do the bare minimum, drop the bare minimum attention, text you bare minimum, ask you out once a month or something, just to keep you confused and just to keep you hooked. You see, men really suffer when they do not have a beautiful woman's validation in their life. As a woman, when you respond to his bare minimum texts, when you say yes to his bare minimum, inconsistent offers of dates, his mind goes, okay, cool, she's hooked. She's still here. She's responding to my texts. She's not ignoring me. She's still ready to go out with me, even though I just ask her once a month, or even worse, ask her for a date once in 6 weeks, and even though I am so sporadic with my communication. The thing with these men is that they are not necessarily seeking a real connection. They're not necessarily seeking a real relationship. What they are seeking is validation and attention.