Is he just using you?
In this YouTube monologue, dating coach Sami Wunder explains how to differentiate a man who genuinely values a romantic partner from one who is merely using her for personal benefit. He argues that a man who truly likes a woman will be proud to include her in his life, introduce her to friends and family, and deepen the connection. Conversely, a man who is using her will keep her isolated, avoid introducing her to important people, ignore her calls when she’s around, and treat the relationship as a transactional exchange. Wunder lists concrete red‑flags such as never meeting his best friend after many dates, never hearing about his parents, and consistently avoiding public or family settings with the woman. The overall message is to recognize these patterns as warning signs that the relationship is driven by self‑interest rather than genuine affection.
