Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Is he pulling away from you?

6 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment of her YouTube video, relationship coach Sami Wunder explains the cascade of negative emotions that arise when a partner begins to pull away. She describes how feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, abandonment, and self‑blame surface, even in highly successful women. Wunder notes that many people’s instinctive reaction is to shift into a masculine, problem‑solving mode—focusing on “what should I do?”—instead of sitting with the uncomfortable emotions. This shift, she suggests, can further complicate the relational dynamic.

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Because he is pulling away, you're going to start feeling all kinds of difficult emotions. The feelings of not being good enough, feelings of not being worthy enough, feelings of being abandoned, feelings of, did I do something wrong here? Is this the treatment I deserve because I did something wrong? That's why he's angry with me. All of these feelings could come up for you. Even the most smart, successful women find it really hard to sit with these emotions, and their response is to rush to being in their masculine, which is, what should I do? How do I make it better? And this brings you into masculine energy.