Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Is he stepping up for you?

1 Jan 2024 · 0 min

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In this concise self‑help monologue, Sami Wunder advises women that men are more likely to step up when the woman demonstrates the ability to walk away. Rather than lecturing, nagging, or constantly pulling a partner down with words, she recommends creating space and holding that space, signaling that the woman will no longer reward undesirable behavior. This pause is intended to prompt the man to recognize the need to show up fully in the relationship.

Men are going to be attracted to a woman who has the ability to walk away. He's said something or done something that you don't like. Instead of lecturing and nagging and pulling him down with all your words, try walking away. Try creating space. Try holding the space for him to realize that you're not going to keep rewarding him if he doesn't step up and show up in his full presence with you.