Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Is he trying to change you?

9 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief talk, relationship coach Sami Wunder asks viewers to consider whether they could accept their partner unchanged. She explains that many couples argue because one side wants to change the other, and this desire for change can dominate the relationship. Wunder urges listeners to assess the magnitude of their partner’s flaws and ask themselves if they could still love the person if nothing altered. If the answer is no, she identifies this as a clear red‑flag indicating a core aspect of the partner’s nature that the viewer cannot accept, which may justify ending the relationship.

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If nothing ever changed in your man, would you be okay with that? Often, conflict is arising in relationships because we want to change our partner, or they want to change us. This can become a constant bickering issue or arguments between couples, so much so that it can overtake the entire relationship. Ask yourself, what am I dealing with here? How big are the faults in my man? If nothing were to change about him, could I still accept him? If the answer is no, that's a very clear red flag. You're hitting against something that is either a core The core way of being, and you can't accept it. If he would not change, it means this could be the reason why you decide to leave.