Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Is he unavailable and defensive? 🧐

7 Nov 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, relationship coach Sami Wunder explains how emotionally unavailable men typically react when their partners request more emotional support, time, or presence. He describes that such requests are perceived as burdens, prompting the man to become defensive, angry, or to blame the partner by labeling her as overly emotional, needy, or demanding. The man then insists on needing space and urges the partner to be less demanding. The segment highlights a common dynamic in relationships where one partner's lack of emotional availability leads to conflict and blame-shifting.

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For a man who is not emotionally available for a real relationship, any request from you to meet your needs, to be there for you, for support for you, for more time with you, is going to feel like a burden on him. It's not going to be something he's going to just happily say yes to. He wants to give you this much, and if you ask for more, he's going to get defensive. He might even end up getting angry with you, or end up blaming you, or end up telling you that you are too emotional, you're too needy, you're too nagging, you're too— demanding, and he needs his space, and he needs you to be less needy and less demanding.