Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Is your masculine energy taking over?

4 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment, Sami Wunder explains that when a woman is involved with an emotionally unavailable man, his lack of communication creates a sense of silence and disconnection. To compensate, the woman may shift into what Wunder calls her "masculine energy," taking on a rescuing role by actively calling, texting, and pursuing the relationship to prevent it from falling apart. She often does this without realizing she has entered a chasing dynamic, which contrasts with the behavior of an emotionally available man who would naturally invest effort and communication in the partnership.

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If you're with an emotionally unavailable man, he probably doesn't call or stay in communication enough. And what that does is that it makes you feel that gap, where you feel that burden of silence, you feel that burden of lack of connection, and therefore you jump into your masculine energy. You jump into the energy of, I'm going to save this connection. I'm going to just call him, or I'm just going to text him, because otherwise our relationship will fall apart. And so often, women don't even realize this, but we start to get in the chasing and pursuing role because the man who is emotionally unavailable is simply not doing the effort that a man who is emotionally available would be doing in a relationship.