Let a man be a man around you
In this monologue, relationship coach Sami Wunder explains that men fundamentally crave feeling masculine when they are with a partner. She argues that a man’s primary need is to feel seen, heard, and understood, and that this feeling is undermined when a woman immediately tries to fix his problems or offers advice the moment he shares a challenge. Such "mothering" responses, even when well‑intentioned, convey a lack of trust in the man’s ability to handle his own issues and effectively emasculate him. Wunder distinguishes this mother‑type love and concern from a more feminine style of love that supports a man’s sense of masculinity. She advises women to resist the urge to solve problems for their partners, instead offering empathetic listening that validates the man’s experience, thereby allowing him to feel fully masculine in her presence.
