Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Let him choose you

19 Apr 2024 · 0 min

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In this dating‑advice monologue, Sami Wunder explains that when a man is slow to pursue, women often experience fear and doubt and feel compelled to intervene by trying to convince or manipulate him. She argues that such tactics rarely succeed because a truly healthy, empowered masculine man will sense being pushed and will not choose the relationship out of genuine desire. The core message is that a man should arrive at the decision to be with a partner of his own free will, rather than being coerced, and that women should respect this autonomy instead of forcing the connection.

If the guy is not pursuing or is slow in the pursuit, then all the fears come up, doubts come up. You want to jump in and make things happen and convince him that you're the person for him and we should see each other. It rarely works. There are definitely men who you can manipulate, convince to be with you, but a healthy, empowered, masculine man, in the back of his mind, knows he was pushed into this connection versus choosing you of his own accord, choosing you out of his own free will.