Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Let him go if he doesn't choose you

23 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, Sami Wunder advises that a man who truly wants a woman will pursue her without doubt, and the key to a healthy dating experience is allowing the man to choose her freely. If he does not choose her, she should let him go without blame or self‑criticism. By cultivating detachment and emotional maturity—accepting the outcome without resentment—dating becomes enjoyable and the woman can remain open and welcoming to a partner who consistently shows love and stability.

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When a man wants you, he's going to come for you, and you will not be left feeling doubtful or having questions about his interest in you, you start winning. That happens when you let a man choose you out of his own free will. If he doesn't choose you, you also let him go. You let him be. You don't make him wrong for it, and you don't make yourself wrong for it. When we can reach this level of detachment and emotional maturity, dating becomes a very pleasurable activity because we don't hold it against a guy that he's not choosing us, while being open and welcoming of the man who is pursuing us, showing up in a consistent, loving, stable way in our lives.