Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Losing a man's attraction towards you

27 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment of her YouTube video, Sami Wunder explains how women often shift from a relaxed, feminine stance to a masculine, pursuer mindset once they sense a potential connection after a few dates. She shares her personal experience of feeling the urge to act on attraction, and describes the inner work she has done to sit with those feelings, miss a man without acting, and deliberately hold space for him to pursue. She argues that stepping into the pursuer role is one of the quickest ways to diminish a man's attraction, and emphasizes the importance of maintaining feminine energy and emotional boundaries to keep the attraction alive.

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It is easy to play cool and be in your feminine as long as you are not that attached. But the minute you've been on a couple of dates and you're starting to really feel like this relationship, this connection with this guy has potential, then it is so tempting to enter your masculine. I've been there and I've done the inner work to heal these feelings, to be able to sit with my feelings, to be able to miss a man and still not act upon it, to be able to think that, wow, we really have a connection, but I'm still going to hold the space for him to pursue me because otherwise I get in the pursuer role. I get in the masculine. Role, and that is one of the fastest ways to kill a man's attraction.