Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Love is not about accepting jerky behaviour from him

24 Mar 2025 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, relationship coach Sami Wunder warns women against tolerating disrespectful or "jerky" behavior from male partners. She illustrates jerky behavior with concrete examples—night‑long outings without communication, public flirting with a best friend, and financial irresponsibility that leaves the woman’s bank account in disarray. Wunder explains that men are aware when they act like jerks, and if a woman lets such conduct slide, the man will lose respect for her and assume he can continue the behavior without consequence. Drawing on her ELEVATE coaching program, she stresses that a woman who wants to be the "queen" in a relationship must set firm boundaries and refuse to let a partner get away with disrespect. She ties this stance to her proprietary "Wunder deal," a mutual‑respect agreement that underpins healthy, adoring relationships.

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men treat you poorly, or your husband treats you poorly, or your boyfriend treats you poorly. Let's say he went out all night without communicating with you, or he openly flirted with your best friend in front of your eyes, or he totally messed up your finances and forgot to inform you about this big bill, and now your bank account is all messed up due to his fault. A jerky behavior is just a behavior which is a very obvious, disrespectful way of being or doing, And it's so important that you never accept jerky behavior from a man, because when a man is doing jerky behavior, he knows it. We talk about this in ELEVATE a lot. Men know when they're being jerks. And it's so important that if you want to be the queen in his life, you want to be respected, you want to be adored, then when he behaves badly, you don't let him get away with it. Because if you let him get away with it, he's actually going to lose respect for you. He's going to think, oh, So, you know, I can do this to her and she's still going to keep loving me. She's still going to stick around. She's still going to be nice to me. That is not the quality of a Wunder deal.