Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Love yourself first!

15 May 2024 · 0 min

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In this short monologue, Sami Wunder emphasizes that a healthy relationship cannot exist without first deeply loving oneself. She describes the act of obsessing over someone who is not interested as a form of self‑abandonment, noting that the unreciprocated attention drains personal energy and creates misery. Wunder argues that healing requires shifting focus inward—cultivating self‑love, choosing personal peace, and prioritising one’s own happiness over the addictive desire for the unattainable person.

It's not possible to create a healthy relationship without deeply loving yourself. The act of obsessing with a man who's not into you is an act of self-abandonment. This person and their absence keeps making you miserable, but somehow you keep gifting them all your attention and all your energy. And this is where the healing needs to happen. You need to love yourself more. You need to choose your peace and your happiness over your desire or addiction to this person.