Make a Man Emotionally Addicted to You

So let's begin with the truth. You can't really make any man fall in love with you or get emotionally addicted to you. You can't really force a connection where there is no natural or organic connection. You cannot really entrap and manipulate your way into having a space in a man's heart. But here's what I do know after 10 years of working as a love and relationship coach, helping high-achieving women attract and keep amazing love in men is that the women who know how to hook a man's emotions do end up attracting quality connections and getting men to feel safe enough to commit to them, to be loyal to them, and to be devoted to them. So in this video, which I'm so excited to share with you, I will give you the 5 things you can do to start becoming the woman that men want to have a deeper emotional connection with. So let's start with the first one. The first one is emotional safety alongside feminine mystery. So let's decode this. What is emotional safety? Emotional safety is your ability to draw out a man and to make it safe for him to open up to you. So you help a man feel emotionally safe around you when you don't judge him, when you don't fix him, when you don't ask for more. Now, this is the key, and this is something I had to really learn. Myself, and this is also something that I teach my ELEVATE clients. Because here's the thing: when men open up to us, they start to organically and naturally see us as a safe space, and that is imperative for any kind of emotional connection and attraction to build between you and a guy. However, what happens is that when a man starts to open up, women want more. So I remember for myself, for example, when a guy shared with me that he was going through a hard time in his workspace, then I used to have the tendency to want to talk about it more. So it wasn't enough that he opened up to me the first time. The second time we met, I wanted to sort of pry in, get him to open up more, talk more about it, as if he were a woman, because that's what women do. We try to have deep conversations. And so this is the thing you have to be careful You have to be a safe space for a man to open up to you, but you also have to allow him that level of sovereignty, where he decides how much he wants to open up to you, how much he wants to share with you, and whether or not he wants to share with you at that given moment. So a lot of women try to then convince a man to open up more, or try to ask all these prying questions that actually make men feel more guarded, or make their guard go up, instead of wanting to stay open to this woman. So when I say match emotional safety with feminine mystery, it simply means you let him lead the timeline of how he wants to share with you, how much he wants to share with you, and then when he does share with you, just be a safe space. Like, don't judge, don't fix, don't offer solutions. And if you can master this, he will come back to you, I promise, because men want to feel around a woman. They remember the feeling a woman creates, and if you created that feeling of safety, if you created that feeling of Non-judgment, then he will not forget it. And I think a lot of women think, he will forget me if I don't show up again. He will forget me if I don't ask prying questions or ask him to open up. But that is simply your fear talking. The truth is, he will never forget the way you made him feel, and that feeling is what they keep coming back for. But the trick here is to not over-pry, to not lean in, to not try to get him to open up, to just be okay with whatever he is offering in terms of sharing. And gradually, over time, that will bring down his wall. By the way, I talk more about this inside my Building Emotional Attraction with High-Caliber Men program, so absolutely check it out. We're offering it at 50% off this week, just this week. Now, tip #2 on how to get men to be emotionally obsessed with you is choosing feminine softness over performance. Now, this is a tricky one, especially for high-achieving women, especially for successful women, because there is just a part of us that feels like we have to be witty, we have to be smart, we have to be funny, we have to capture his attention by This monkey dance and doing this pole dance, but the truth is, it all ends up as energy. You see, we are all receiving energy, and energy is so much more than just what we say or our body language. It's how we're feeling on the inside that is getting transmitted to a guy. And so, when a woman is in performance energy— sometimes performance energy can be as simple as talking a lot about your work and talking a lot about your achievements and showing what a great life you have and what an interesting person you are. But at other times, it could just look like Hijacking the conversation, trying to be really interesting, talking a lot about yourself, shifting the focus back from him onto yourself. And all of this leaks as trying-too-hard energy, and it leaks as performance, and it kills masculine desire to pursue you. And it also kills a masculine man's desire to connect with you emotionally, because when you're performing, he can't feel you. Listen to this again. When you're performing, he can't not feel you. And if he's feeling you, all he's feeling is the energy of you trying hard. And when a man feels like a woman is trying hard, he's not able to bond with her emotionally, because he's not able to feel her. All he's able to see is her performance and trying hard. So I always invite my ELEVATE clients to lean into softness, to lean into just being, to know that it's okay to be boring, really. Like, it's— for a lot of women who are high achievers, and for a lot of women who have so much to offer and lead great lives, it is actually okay to really slow down and be a little boring, be a little normal, so that he can actually feel you versus he receives your performance energy. Now, tip #3 on how to make a man emotionally addicted to you, and I know this is going to be powerful, is to appreciate and validate with your words, but not to overgive. So this is all about appreciating a man when he does something right. So men actually love A female's validation. They thrive on our appreciation. But a lot of the times, what's happening is that women feel insecure. Women like the guy, you like the guy, and then you start appreciating where appreciation doesn't belong, right? Like, oh, thank you for opening the door! It's like, what?! So you want to appreciate a man when he earns your appreciation. So I recently had a friend send me flowers, and it's just a professional contact, but I said to him, Wow, that was such a thoughtful gesture! You are You're always so thoughtful. And I could see, like, the little glow come up, you know, like, ooh, a woman validating me. So validate, but do not overgive the validation. The validation and the appreciation that men get from you should always be earned. And women don't understand the power of words. So often, you might be thinking in your head, wow, he planned a really nice date. Wow, I love how consistently he shows up. Wow, I love how safe I feel with him. And you might think all these things, but maybe you are not verbalizing. And so the verbalizing is important. It is really important for emotionally hooking somebody, emotionally hooking a guy. And that's because when he hears those words, it feels like a dopamine hit for him in his brain. It feels like he wants something. It feels like he got something right. And guess what? That's the dopamine hit he's going to come back for. That's the hit he's looking for. He wants to feel that good feeling again. So you might think that there's all this dating coaching advice out there, like, be a nice princess, play it cool, but I'm completely the opposite. I'm like, I want to be authentic. Again, Building Emotional Attraction program will show you how. If you want to get a taster of how you can build emotional attraction, you will find a link in the description below, where I am giving you access to a free training I've recorded, where I talk about my methodology around how I teach my ELEVATE clients to build emotional attraction. And in that offer, you will also get a 50% off on the Building Emotional Attraction program. So absolutely grab the training, it's completely free. Authenticity is so key, and when you genuinely have a man doing something nice for you, don't forget to verbalize it. Don't forget to say it to him, because that's the hook, the reward emotionally, that he'll keep coming back for. Now, tip #4 to get a man emotionally hooked is your flirtatious, light, playful energy. Oh my God, So many women get so serious in dating. So many women get so serious over texting. So many women ask such serious questions or show up on dates in this interview energy, ice-cold princess energy. And really, what a man is looking for is the reward of your emotion. He wants to feel you, right? So, light energy, playful energy, slightly teasing energy, slightly challenging energy— oh my God, mwah! Chef's kiss for a man. That is is what he is looking to experience. Because guess what? If you're dealing with a highly masculine, successful guy, he is not tuned into his emotions. He is operating from his logical brain. He's operating from his head. And the thing he craves the most is feeling a woman, is feeling a woman's feminine energy. And there is literally nothing like flirtatious, light, playful, teasing feminine energy. And when a woman is light, she's just really easy to be around. She is pleasant company. She sort of takes off his burdens without really actively doing anything to take his burdens away, but in her company, there is a gift. In her company, there is a gift of lightness, of playfulness. And by the way, for those of you who will be grabbing Building Emotional Attraction program at 50% off during our current offer, you will also get access to a very amazing 48-hour bonus with The Feminine Art of Flirting and The Feminine Art of Texting training, straight from my ELEVATE program, added as my bonus gift to you. So this is an incredible offer. Again, if you haven't downloaded the training, do it now. The link is in the description below. It's completely free. And then, of course, you will be invited, as a next step, to grab the 50% offer on Building Emotional Attraction program. And these trainings are extremely valuable for those of you who find it hard to flirt, or who feel like they're very shy. If you're very shy, you know, this is going to help you break through that wall and actually flirt with more confidence. And I literally believe flirting is a skill any woman can learn. In fact, my entire dating methodology, Soulmate Attraction methodology, is based on the belief system that we can learn this stuff. I wasn't born knowing how to be a good flirt. I learned it, and so can you. And so these bonuses are really worth grabbing, so don't forget to grab the training. Link in the description below. And finally, let's talk about tip #5 of what gets a man emotionally addicted to you. And this What is unpredictability? And I know it doesn't sound very healthy, but let me explain it. Unpredictability is the idea that he doesn't fully have you, that you're still a little bit of a mystery, that he can't place you in one box. So what men want to do is they want to meet a woman, and then they want to put her in a box. Okay, she's hot. Hot but dumb. Hot and intelligent. Hot, intelligent, and always responds to my messages. Hot, intelligent, but doesn't always respond to my messages. Hot, intelligent, is very warm, but also has boundaries. Oh my goodness! Which means she's not afraid to lose me. She's not afraid to displease me. She's not afraid to call me out if I get something wrong. Interesting, hot, can't figure her out. So I always talk about unpredictability in my work as not something like you strategically do, but something that just happens. It happens because you're authentic. So I'm an authentic woman. I don't respond to a text if I feel like somebody didn't really make an effort and they're just dropping me a breadcrumb. I speak my truth. I really appreciate when somebody sends me flowers, but if somebody says they'll get on a call with me and they're 10 minutes late, I'll also be like, what is this? Sorry, but what is this? Right? So authenticity, your ability to be yourself, your ability to honor your heart, your ability to honor your feelings, is naturally going to create unpredictability. without having to play games. So those are the 5 ways in which you can start to create emotional addiction in a man where things are naturally flowing forward, not in a forced or manipulative kind of way. And if you want to go deeper, I have the most incredible free training resource for you on the Sami Wunder Methodology on how to build emotional attraction in high-quality men. Grab the training, the link is in the description below. It's going to show you what are the 6 elements you need to have in order to truly build emotional connection with a man. And of course, it's going to give you access to my current running 50% off on my Building Emotional Attraction Advanced Digital Program, which I truly believe every woman, whether you're single, in a relationship, starting to date a guy, getting in mid-level dating with a guy, building a connection with somebody right now, every woman needs to have this incredible program. Go check it out. I love you, and thank you for watching this. Give me a like, give me a comment if this was helpful.