Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Making this mistake in early dating?

19 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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In this dating‑advice video, Sami Wunder explains that many women make a common error: they reveal their romantic feelings to a man too early—often within the first one to three dates. While being open‑hearted and honest is a positive trait, expressing love or strong attraction prematurely removes the natural uncertainty that fuels a man's instinct to pursue. This early, direct confession can extinguish his drive to chase, undermining the bonding process. Wunder emphasizes that timing is crucial; women should allow a period of subtle interest and uncertainty before openly declaring their feelings, thereby preserving the natural pursuit dynamic.

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Most women think that just because you like a guy and you tell him you like him, he's going to like you back. The mistake women make is that they reveal their feelings to men very directly and rather prematurely in the dating process. Being interested in someone, liking someone, being vulnerable about that is actually a beautiful quality to possess. You're open-hearted, you're honest, you're emotionally in tune with who you are. However, the problem is the timing in these situations. Most women tend to express their feelings to men prematurely. You go in on date number 1, 2, or even 3, and you tell him, I really like you. I've always liked you. The chances are that you have been very direct. You have killed the entire instinct of pursuit within a man. You have left absolutely no uncertainty, and this is far too early in the bonding process to be so direct and open about your feelings.