Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Outgirl Him! Do This When He's Not Taking Action

21 Mar 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment of her dating advice video, Sami Wunder introduces the concept of “outgirling,” which means deliberately refraining from initiating contact, planning, or discussing future events when a man is not taking action himself. By not returning his lack of initiative—such as not calling, texting, making plans, or talking about future dates—she argues that a woman creates space that encourages the man to step up, take charge, and become more invested. This strategic withholding is presented as a way for women to regain power in the dynamic and motivate men to assume responsibility for the relationship’s progression.

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you can learn with us inside ELEVATE is the concept of outgirling a man. You outgirl a man when he is not taking action, when he is not calling you, not texting you, not making plans, not talking about the future. You outgirl him by not returning any action to him. So no making action towards him. But instead, giving him space. So this looks like if a guy doesn't talk about a date, you don't talk about it. If a man doesn't plan a holiday or doesn't say who's sharing and how we're doing things, you don't talk about it. And this is where you become so powerful when you can outgirl men, because when you create that space that we spoke about, this is what gives him the space to take charge and take control.