Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Over giving in your relationship?

16 Nov 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment, relationship coach Sami Wunder defines "overgiving" as a pattern where women—particularly high‑achieving women—invest significantly more time, money, attention, and effort into a partnership than their male partners do. She argues that this imbalance tends to attract men who are takers, leading to negative outcomes such as cheating, disloyalty, and heartbreak. Wunder emphasizes the importance of keeping a man actively engaged, "addicted" and focused on the relationship, and advises women to avoid the overgiving position to maintain a healthier, more balanced dynamic both in dating and long‑term relationships.

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overgiving is when, as a woman, you are investing more time, more money, more attention, more effort into the relationship than he is doing for you. This often tends to be an issue with high-achieving women. You can do a lot, you can give a lot, you end up attracting men who are takers, and in those relationship dynamics, you end up being the overgiver. And that is why you get your heart broken, you find him cheating, you find him being disloyal to you. If you understand the power of keeping your man involved in the relationship, keeping him addicted to you, obsessed with you, keeping him and his focus on you within the relationship, or even in a dating dynamic, then you must not be in an overgiving position.