Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Saying NO is OK

28 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise advice monologue, Sami Wunder emphasizes that saying no authentically is essential for healthy attraction and relationship building. She explains that refusing a request or setting a boundary should stem from genuine discomfort or misalignment, not from a desire to be contrary. By confronting the fear of saying no and communicating limits—especially regarding the pace of physical intimacy—individuals can present their true selves, which she argues will make a partner more obsessed with them and foster a deeper, authentic connection.

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If you want a man to be obsessed with you, you cannot be afraid of saying no to him. It's not about saying no for the sake of saying no. It's about saying no when something really doesn't feel right for you, or when something really doesn't align well with you. When we like somebody, when we've met somebody we have feelings for, and we are hedging on this connection to work out, there can be some sense of fear around saying a no, drawing a boundary, saying, that doesn't work for me. I would rather not do that. I hope that's okay. Can we take it slow with the physical intimacy? It can be scary. to say no. But if you really want him to be obsessed with you, you cannot be afraid of him. You've got to be able to be your authentic self around a man that you want to build an authentic relationship with.