Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Sign of emotional unavailability

26 Jun 2024 · 0 min

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In this brief advisory segment, Sami Wunder explains that becoming obsessively fixated on someone who shows little interest often signals the viewer's own emotional unavailability. She describes how such individuals retreat into imagined scenarios and fantasies about the relationship, living more in their heads than in reality. Wunder frames this pattern as a sign that needs attention and suggests that recognizing and healing this emotional unavailability is essential for healthier relational dynamics.

If you find yourself getting obsessed with a guy who's not that into you, it is quite likely that you are also emotionally unavailable yourself at some level. You like to live in a fantasy world in your head, create stories in your head about what this could be if he would pay attention to me, who we could be if we were spending time together. You are living in your head and none of it is going on in real life. And this is a sign of emotional unavailability that we need to work on healing.