Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Stop Picking Wrong Men ❌ Heal Your Childhood Trauma

19 Jul 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment, Sami Wunder explains that many clients who grew up in critical, unsupportive, or shaming environments tend to unconsciously choose romantic partners who replicate those negative dynamics. She describes how childhood experiences of being blamed, shamed, or told they are not good enough create a relational "blueprint" that draws them to men who are critical and unkind. Wunder emphasizes the need to recognize and rewrite this blueprint in order to break the cycle and heal the underlying childhood trauma.

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What I see with a lot of my clients who have come from childhoods which are more critical, which are more, you know, not very loving, not very supportive, not very gracious, childhoods where when you made a mistake, you were shamed, or you were really scolded, or you were told you were not good enough, we can continue to pick up men who will repeat that pattern in our relationship. A lot of the times, my clients who have those kinds of childhood backgrounds, they still keep picking up men who are critical of them and who are unkind to them. And this is where we have to work on changing your blueprint.