Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

The defining quality of a emotionally unavailable man 🧐

26 Sept 2023 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Sami Wunder explains that the core characteristic of emotionally unavailable or "hot‑and‑cold" men is their inconsistent availability. Unlike a healthy, empowered masculine partner who consistently shows up in communication and dates, these men create feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and uncertainty in their partners. Wunder highlights the internal conflict women experience—feeling liked during dates yet anxious between them—and advises viewers to recognize this pattern as a sign of emotional unavailability.

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Emotionally unavailable men are not going to be available consistently for you. They're not going to be available like a healthy, empowered, masculine man who just shows up consistently in his communication, on the dates, in between the dates, even when you're not meeting each other in person, and gives you that sense of safety. You know, with emotionally unavailable men, you're often going to feel alone. You're going to feel lonely. You're going to ask yourself, is he really interested in me? I really like him. When we meet each other on the dates, I know he really likes me, but why do I feel so anxious? between the dates. Like, there's something here that I'm not able to figure out. So if you're feeling that way, see if you're dealing with a hot and cold man, because a hot and cold man is literally not available consistently. That's like his defining quality.