In this live coaching video, relationship coach Sami Wunder introduces the "Power Moment" – a brief pause between an external trigger (e.g., a partner’s comment or a dating request) and the woman’s response. She explains that this space is where personal power lies, allowing a woman to choose a different, more constructive reaction instead of defaulting to people‑pleasing, blame, or conflict. Wunder illustrates the concept with examples for both women in committed relationships (e.g., handling a hurtful comment) and single women on dates (e.g., declining an invitation without feeling obligated). She outlines how to use the Power Moment: notice the trigger, take a breath, connect with the body, and decide a response that aligns with one’s needs and boundaries. The video also promotes her Elevate coaching program and a forthcoming low‑cost 4‑day workshop series called "Diva Love Secrets," which teaches a Love Success Framework for singles and partnered women. Wunder cites success metrics (over 500 women helped, 90% satisfaction) and invites viewers to join the upcoming event for a taste of her coaching style, with an upsell to a longer 6‑month Elevate program.
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Hello, you gorgeous Wunder Divas! This is Sami Wunder, and I am so happy and excited to be here and connecting with you all. So it's been some time I showed up like this live for you, and I actually wanted to come in and share a tip I just shared with my Elevate Relationships and Married Women group about remembering the power of the power moment in your relationships. This is a tool straight from Elevate curriculum for women in relationships, and you can use this tool whenever you're triggered, whenever you feel like you're about to start an argument with your boyfriend or your husband or your partner, You can also use this tool when you feel like you're again saying yes to something you don't want to say yes to, or you're not saying no where you should be saying no. So this tool is super helpful, not just for women in relationships, but also for women who are single and dating and who are looking to up their capacity for drawing boundaries and speaking their truth and showing up more authentically in their dating interactions with men so that they actually attract a masculine, empowered man who is a match for the kind of woman that you are. Okay, so what is this tool? Now, if you're watching this live or on replay, just say hi in the comments. Let me know where you're joining from. And I'm going to give you the tool, okay? Now, so the tool is called the Power Moment. What is the Power Moment? The Power Moment is that space in between an external stimuli or an external trigger or an external thing that happens. So let's just say your man says, oh, you're looking really fat in that dress of yours. Now, this is an external trigger, right? Or let's say a guy says, can I come over to your place for coffee? And it's just the first date, and you're like, in your head, you're thinking, no, dude. But your People Pleaser or your Man Pleaser is again scared and doesn't know what to say and is feeling jittery. And usually, you would end up saying yes, and usually, you would end up doing something So if you were the woman whose partner is saying, you look fat in that dress, you're going to feel bad, you're going to feel attacked, you're going to feel blamed, you're going to lash back at him, you're going to say something mean to him, or maybe you just fall into a puddle of tears, and it becomes like this whole emotional thing. And if you're the woman who's dating, you don't want to bring up a man to your house on the first date, but because you are scared of conflict, you're scared of people, you're You're a people pleaser, you're a man pleaser, you feel afraid of speaking up for what you want. You may have the tendency to just say, okay, okay, sure. So who can relate with this? I can relate with this because— not anymore, but when I was a single woman, this is a decade ago now, over 11 years ago. My husband and I are going to be celebrating our 10 years this year. But when I was a single woman, I had a really hard time, you know, being able to stop being a man pleaser. And I would just go with whatever the men wanted. And that would make me end up in situations that I later felt really bad about. Like, I really did not like the situations I was finding myself in, but I would not be able to say no, and I wouldn't be able to ask for what I want. And so this is an example for single Divas, but let's also look at it for women in relationships, right? If you're the woman whose partner said something mean like that, if you're not aware of the Power Moment, usually you know how that kind of situation ends. That kind of situation ends with 2 people fighting, 2 people feeling disconnected, the argument becoming a shouting match, and just real pain and sadness and disconnection, and just feeling like, you know, what am I doing here? Am I with the right person? And so we were just having this conversation inside ELEVATE, and I want to bring it to you. So what is this power moment? So let's say you have an external stimuli, right? You have your man, your partner, your date saying something, And that either doesn't feel good or you don't agree with it or it's not nice or maybe it's calling you to draw a boundary or express a need. And then there is your response to that situation. Okay? And the power moment is that moment in between the 2 things. It is the moment in between the trigger and the moment between your response. So this is your response. Usually it's always the same. And if it's always the same, it's always going to give you the same kind of result, right? And this is the trigger. This is the response. And in the middle here is that space, that breathe, that breathing moment where you actually have a choice to see how you want to respond to the situation. This is called the power moment. I think it's an Elevate communication module, and it's called the power moment because truly this is where your personal power lies, because you get to choose how you respond to a situation. You know, if your husband says something mean or your boyfriend says something mean, And you know, he always talks to you like that, which is the external trigger, and you always react the same way, which is blame, shame, fighting, and that always leads to the same thing, which is the shouting match and feeling disconnected and feeling hurt. You actually have a lot of power by choosing a different response in the moment. So even though he's going to do the same thing, if you are aware of the power moment, you can choose a completely different response to how he's behaving. And when you choose a completely different response to how he's behaving, you create a new result in your relationship. You create a different outcome. Is this landing? If it's landing, say landing in the comments. I would love your feedback. If it's landing, say landing. There is that space, that moment between a trigger and our response. And so often the two feel together. It's almost like he says something and you do say something. He says something, you say something. And we forget that there is space. And this space in the middle is where you get to choose how you respond. And this is a very powerful space. And for those of you who will be joining us inside Elevate, we're opening enrollment next week. Oh my God, I can't believe it. We're opening enrollment next week. For those of you who will be joining us inside Elevate, this is where all your inner work lies. This is where all the transformation lies. This is where you get to have— you get to create a completely different reality in your relationship if you can use the power moment in your favor. So let me give you an example. We'll just build on what we said at the start, which was maybe your husband or your boyfriend says, wow, you look really fat in that dress. And usually you just be like, you're such a mean jerk. You know, you're so horrible. You're so rude. Blame, attack, defensiveness. Let's just use the power moment. And in this power moment, which is really feminine energy because you have to connect with your body, if you respond from your head, you'll basically go into ego and a fighting match. But if you fall into your body and you ask yourself how that feels. Now you have— you're starting to use the power moment to create a different kind of response in the same kind of trigger and the same kind of situation that keeps repeating in your relationship. And so you're going to ask yourself, like, how do I want to respond to this? And if it was me and somebody said something mean like that to me, I'd probably just take a deep breath and disengage. Or I'll take a deep breath and walk away, or I will let them know that didn't feel good to hear, and then I will walk away. But it's very difficult for your partner, your boyfriend, to engage in a fighting match with you if you're not willing to play the game. So inside ELEVATE, so often we teach our clients how to defuse tension, how to defuse disconnection, how to defuse fight and these shouting matches that some women, some of us have in our relationships, and how you as a woman have so much influence in this. And so the power moment is that moment where you decide to respond differently. And it's the same for our single ladies and women in relationships. It is in that power moment that you can take a breath and you can say, you know what? I'd love to invite you for coffee someday, but tonight I'm tired and I would rather go to bed now. It's been a great evening. And you can just, instead of going, yes, of course, and bringing a man up to your house and then feeling obligated to sleep with him or whatever those kind of obligation situations are that are occurring, in that power moment, you have the choice to transform. Because you have the choice to give a different response. And when you can understand this, when you can connect more deeply with this power moment and this power of choice that the power moment gives you, this power of choice to choose a different response, this is where the growth starts to happen. This is where you start to create different results. Now, I know that so many of you have been sitting as a spectator on this group and you're watching and you're reading, but you're not taking action. And so I want to make sure you are aware that next Thursday, literally in a week's time, I'm running a brand new live event called the Diva Love Secrets. Now, this is a very specific event where you're going to be getting access to 4 days of workshops. And what we're going to be doing inside this event is giving you the framework, the Love Success Framework that we take our clients through inside ELEVATE, and that gets our clients such incredible results on repeat. So you have a pain, whether you're single and you're looking to attract the one, or you're in a relationship and you're dying to feel more connection, more attraction, more intimacy with your man. I want to tell you, whatever your pain is, we have the solution inside our Love Success Framework for you. We have a Love Success Framework for single women. We have a Love Success Framework for women in relationships. And I invite you to join the Diva Love Secrets series because it's going to take the curtains off on how is it that we help our clients to create such lasting results in their love life. We've helped over 500 women go from single to married and engaged to the love of their life. We've helped hundreds and hundreds of others attract happy, committed partnerships, healthy partnerships, and not the kind of partnerships that change every year. We're talking about solving the struggle you have in your love life once and for all. We're talking about having the blueprint of what makes healthy love come to you and stick in your life. If this person is you, if you are looking to get a taster of how I work together with my amazing team of coaches, then join the Diva Love Secrets event. It's only $11, but I'm charging that because I need to make sure that only serious women are taking this course with us. And of course, I will not promise that you will attract your Soulmate in 4 workshops. I don't believe in doing such hype, gimmicky promises. But I do believe that in those 4 days, you're going to have a radical shift of perspective, and you're going to be able to see that grand love is possible for you. And you're going to be able to see that there is a way to create it, and there is a process that works. And it works for over 90% of the women who come to us. And you can follow that process to get the results you desire in your love life, whether it be attracting a healthy, empowered man, starting a family, or it'd be feeling more connected, in love, and attracted to your partner. So, if you are even remotely curious, I think this is a great low-investment offer to come in, get a taster of our style of coaching, understand, you know, why is it that Sami Wunder's clients get such amazing results. And of course, there will also be an opportunity for those of you who want to go deeper and do the work with our support and our life coaching for 6 months inside ELEVATE. For you to join ELEVATE on the best offer of the year on the program. So I'm going to ask my team to leave the link in the comments and in the video description above. And I'm very, very excited to see you join me next Thursday live for the Diva Love Secrets. I love you all!
