THIS is a really toxic pattern

Another reason why modern dating feels hard for ambitious women, and why you might still be single, is because you are still choosing men based on chemistry versus long-term compatibility and values. Physical attraction alone is not enough. Many women are not able to say no or walk away when they see red flags in a man that they feel physically attracted to. You keep attracting the wrong men, attracting players, Casanovas, toxic men, narcissists, because you are so singularly focused on physical attraction and not enough focused on long-term compatibility, match of values, ensuring that you are treated well in the equation. It's a really toxic pattern. You are undermining the importance of how somebody treats you and whether or not you are aligned with this person in the long run.