Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

THIS is the core principle of attraction

3 Oct 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise monologue, Sami Wunder challenges the common belief that expressing affection, serving, or constantly supporting a partner will increase their love. He argues that attraction is driven by self‑valuation: you must place yourself on a pedestal, view yourself as the prize, and prioritize your own well‑being. By investing time, money, and energy into yourself—creating space for your own growth—others are more likely to see you as valuable, think about you, and make room for you in their lives. The core message is that attraction stems from self‑investment rather than over‑serving a partner.

The core principle of attraction is not the more I like the guy, the more I tell him I like him, or the more I love my husband, the more I serve him and support him, the more he's going to love me back. That's not how attraction works. Attraction works if you put yourself on the pedestal. Know that you are the prize. For somebody to value us, think about us, create space in their lives for us, and treat us as important, we have to make space for ourselves, prioritize ourselves, give energy to ourselves, invest in ourselves, be willing to put time, money, energy into ourselves.