Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

THIS signals man’s intentions

24 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, Sami Wunder outlines behavioral cues that indicate a man is primarily interested in sex rather than a genuine romantic connection. He contrasts these cues with the actions of emotionally available, masculine men who invest effort in courting, planning real-life dates, and treating their partner well. Key red flags include a man's avoidance of planning in‑person dates unless it’s convenient for him, offering low‑effort meet‑ups (e.g., “hang out tonight?”), texting at late, odd hours (10–11 PM), and using sexting symbols such as the aubergine emoji. Wunder emphasizes that these patterns signal a “booty‑call” mindset, where the man views the woman mainly as a sexual object.

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Sign #2 that a man just wants you for sex is when he is avoiding planning real-life dates and courting you, unless it is convenient for him. Emotionally available masculine men get a rush out of winning your heart. They get a rush out of treating you well, spoiling you, taking you out on nice dates, taking you out on nice experiences, wanting to win you through their effort. But when you're dealing with a guy who just wants your body, who's just in it for the goal of sex and somehow getting you to take your pants off and be in his bedroom, then you will start to see signs like really low-effort dating offers. So, hey, what's up? Do you want to meet, hang out tonight? Do you want to meet tonight for a drink? Sometimes you will be finding them texting you at really odd hours, like 10 PM at night, 11 PM at night. Oh my goodness, what are you doing? I'm thinking about you. Imagine a guy you've just met on date 1, date 2, sending you a text at 11 PM at night, thinking about you. Now, some dull men, Some low-intellect men, low-IQ men, will probably even send an aubergine with it, but most men will still signal to you that that's how they are thinking about you. And this is when a man is just literally looking at a woman as a booty call.