Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

THIS stops a man from taking things forward

28 May 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, dating coach Sami Wunder explains why men often give mixed signals despite showing attraction. He outlines that a man may feel drawn to a woman and act flirtatiously, yet remain hesitant to pursue a relationship because of internal uncertainty about commitment, a busy personal life, or an existing partnership. This subconscious doubt leads him to treat the woman well but avoid direct, forward moves, as he perceives asking her out or expressing clear interest as inappropriate or out of bounds. The video frames these factors as the primary reasons a man stops taking things forward, offering viewers insight into interpreting mixed signals in dating contexts.

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Men give mixed signals if they are not sure about you. A man can feel physical attraction for a woman, but maybe he is not sure that he's in a place in his life where he can really give you the kind of commitment and relationship you want. So instinctively, he feels drawn to you. When you're with him, he treats you well and he's flirty with you because he finds you attractive. But deep down in his subconscious mind, he's not sure. And that not sure could be because he's either not sure that he really wants a real relationship or commitment in his life. Maybe his life is just too busy right now to offer anything serious. Maybe he is already taken. He likes you, but he has a partner at home, but he feels that instinctive pull towards you. He is intrigued by you, finds you attractive, but has a woman at home and knows that asking you out or being very direct with you in terms of his interest is simply out of bounds, is simply not the right thing to do. That's stopping the man from being very direct and taking things forward with you.