Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Traits of being obsessed with a man

6 May 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief segment, relationship coach Sami Wunder explains that feeling obsessed with a man means allocating an excessive amount of mental and emotional space to someone who does not reciprocate attention, communication, or quality time. She argues that a woman with healthy self‑esteem and self‑love will naturally become disinterested in men who fail to make an effort, communicate adequately, or spend meaningful time together. The excerpt frames obsession as a symptom of low self‑value and positions disengagement as a healthy response within a ‘love compass’ that guides women toward partners who meet their relational needs.

Feeling obsessed with somebody is just giving an undue amount of mind space and headspace to a man. You do this as a woman when a man is not giving you the attention, communication, time that you desire from him. In a healthy love compass, we would get disinterested in such a man. A healthy woman with a healthy sense of self-esteem, who loves herself, who knows her value, over time gets disinterested in men who are not making an effort for her, disinterested in men who are not communicating enough, who are not spending enough quality time with her.