Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Value and Prioritize YOURSELF, in a relationship! 🥰 🔥

28 Aug 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment, Sami Wunder recounts a dating experience from about eleven years ago where a partner explicitly rejected her wearing tiger or leopard prints. Despite her love for those patterns, she deliberately avoided them on subsequent dates to please him, describing this as self‑abandon. The relationship ultimately failed, and Sami uses the story to illustrate a broader pattern: many people, especially women, suppress their own preferences and needs to prioritize a partner’s opinions, which can lead to loss of attraction and the relationship ending. She emphasizes the importance of valuing oneself, maintaining personal style, and prioritizing one’s own needs over a partner’s demands in romantic relationships.

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There was a guy I was dating when I was single, almost 11 years ago, who literally told me on date number 2, I don't like tiger prints or leopard prints, you know? And I was wearing a leopard print that day, and I was like, okay, this feels weird. But I remember being so conscious about not showing up on dates with him with any leopard print or tiger print. And I self-abandoned, because I love leopard prints and tiger prints, but I self-abandoned in order to please him. And needless to say, it never worked out. But I think it's a great example of how we change ourselves and deprioritize ourselves in order to please men. And that's when they really stop pursuing us, because we're not valuing ourselves. We're valuing them more and their opinions more and their needs more than our opinions and our needs.