Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

What pushes men away?

28 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment of her relationship‑coaching video, Sami Wunder explains that men seeking a long‑term partner are primarily drawn to emotional attraction and connection. She defines emotional attraction as a woman’s capacity to be vulnerable, to make a man feel admired, and to do so without smothering, mothering, or over‑nurturing him. Wunder stresses that achieving this fine balance is crucial. While the women she works with in her ELEVATE program are kind‑hearted and emotionally attuned, their typical ways of showing love—often overly nurturing or mothering—can unintentionally repel masculine men. The excerpt highlights the paradox that well‑intentioned expressions of love may push the very partners they aim to attract away.

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So what a man is looking for when he's looking at a wife, or he's looking at a long-term partner, is emotional attraction and emotional connection. In order to talk about emotional attraction, to teach emotional attraction, we have to be highly attuned to our own emotions. And we have to understand that emotional attraction is our ability to be vulnerable with a man. Emotional attraction is our ability to make a man feel admired, but doing that without smothering him, without mothering him, without over-nurturing him. And that is where the fine balance comes in. comes. Because the women we work with inside ELEVATE, you know, they're all good women, they're all kind-hearted, and I would say they are able to tune into their emotions. But when they feel for a man, their way of showing love and their way of building emotional connection is what actually pushes masculine men away.