Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

When to start dating after breakup

13 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, relationship coach Sami Wunder addresses women who feel lost after a breakup and wonder whether to return to dating apps for quick male validation. She explains that the urge to fill the void stems from missing emotional connection and the comfort of another’s presence, even if the prior relationship was unhealthy. Wunder warns that jumping into rebound relationships or superficial app encounters merely masks deeper grief, leading to recurring pain and renewed loneliness. She emphasizes the importance of allowing genuine feelings to surface and processing the breakup fully before seeking new connections, advocating for authentic healing over temporary validation.

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So often, I see women who are really struggling with a breakup, asking me the question, can I go back to the apps? It would feel so good to get some male validation. I am missing the emotional connection. I miss him. I miss masculine energy. And so what do we do to run away from those feelings? We are feeling that void. We are feeling the emptiness. The home is empty. Maybe we were living together with this person. This person was there to validate us. And even if it wasn't the healthiest of relationships, just having somebody around is more comforting than being yourself, especially if you are used to somebody else's presence. And so what can happen is that a lot of people go into rebound relationships, or a lot of people just quickly go back to the apps. But that's just a superficial way to cover your deeper grief and to cover your deeper pain. And trust me, the pain comes back. The pain resurfaces if you do not spend time really allowing your real feelings, your real pain to surface. That pain will return, or you will keep finding yourself in these surface-level connections, one-night stands, quick validation exercises, but you will end up feeling lonely and empty again.