Why He Stops Chasing And What To Do To FIX IT ♥️

Hey, Divas! In this video, we're talking about why he stopped chasing you and how you can fix this quickly. So if you're in a situation right now where you like a man, but you can feel like his effort towards you is reducing, he has stopped actively pursuing and chasing you, then this is the right video for you. This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder, and I help high-achieving, smart, strong, successful women find and keep Amazing romantic relationships. So let's see, are you in this situation right now where you met this great guy, you feel there's good chemistry, emotional and physical, and he was making all this effort at the start, pursuing you, texting you, calling you, setting up dates, but now you can feel like he's slightly withdrawing? He's not really texting you that often, and definitely the in-person dates are not happening. And of course, this can feel so disappointing because within your heart, You're going, oh my God, the same pattern again. They come on strong, then they stop pursuing, they stop chasing, and maybe I'm just unlucky in love. Well, you're not unlucky in love. I'm going to give you the 5 reasons why he has stopped chasing. And of course, you want to watch this video right till the end, because I'm also going to be talking about how you can fix this. So I'm not just going to give you the problems, I'm also going to give you the solution in this video. So let's look at reason #1 why he has stopped chasing. You came across as needy in your energy. Now, I don't want you to judge yourself, but here's what I found after nearly a decade of doing this work with thousands of women across 86 countries of the globe. So what happens is that the kind of clientele I serve and I support and work with has standards, you know, and is looking for a certain kind of man who is a vibrational match for the amazingness that this woman offers and the amazingness that she is. And so what happens is that, in the dating process, you probably don't meet as many good men. And so you are usually operating, without realizing, subconsciously, from the energy of scarcity. And so when this great guy comes along and you see potential and you see he can be your partner and there is real possibility here, it is very possible that you hyperfocus on the man, you get really excited and really invested, And basically, that energy drips off as neediness. And men can pick up on energy, you know, like how bears can pick up on honey, or like food in the trash bins. Maybe not the best example, but yeah, how they can smell out honey. So when we're in that needy scarcity energy, men can spot that. And to be very honest, it's not very attractive. Now, signs of being in needy energy look like, you know, looking at your phone very often. When is he calling? When is he texting? When he does call, replying the very first moment he messages you, because, well, you've been waiting for it all day, talking about him to all your friends, being around him in this smitten kitty, oh my God, you're so amazing, I'm putting you up on a pedestal energy. And if we are showing up in this energy, we're not really being the prize, something I talk about in my love coaching programs. So it's so important that if you want a man to pursue you and continuously chase you in order to claim you and commit to you, you really have to stay in the prize energy. So ask yourself, did you slip into neediness in these interactions with this guy? Now, reason #2 why he stopped chasing is possibly because you were too available. You see, again, I'm going to use the bear analogy. A bear that is hungry is going to come for more. But if you really give the bear pots and pots of honey, the bear is now satisfied. And so the bear is going to go do other things. He's going to go swim in the sea. He's going to go sniff some berries in the forest, because he's eaten. His pot of honey. And so this is how men interact with women. And when you are too available all the time, on texts, on calls, you know, he calls, you pick up the call, you talk all day on texts, and then you say yes to dates tomorrow, and then 2 days later again, you're on dates. Meanwhile, in the middle, you're talking to him. This is all too intense, and this is too much too soon. And if you give yourself so much to a man and make yourself so available to a man early on in dating, the likelihood that he will disappear or reduce his sense of pursuit or stop chasing you is so much higher. So ask yourself, were you too available? Now, reason #3 why he stopped chasing you: you self-abandoned. Now, what does it mean to self-abandon? It means that, you know, when a guy asks you out, you drop everything for him. So if you were meeting a friend, you're going to call her and say, sorry, but he asked me for a date, so, you know, we'll have to cancel our plans. Or maybe you're seeing your family on the weekend, but you You drop that and you decide to see him instead. Or maybe you were going out gymming and working out, and it's like your swim time or your workout time when he asked you for a date, but you also decided to drop that and make him a priority and go on the date. And this kind of self-abandonment really, again, trickles through energetically to men. They can see that we are not prioritizing our own well-being in the dating process, but we are prioritizing the man, we are prioritizing what he wants from us. And I totally get it, as a human being, you know, when you meet that man who has potential, it's so exciting to drop everything and drop all the plans and just sort of drop your life for his sake, in order to be with him, and in order to feel like that the connection is growing. But really, when you understand dating, and if you've done even any of my smaller programs, like Date Like a Diva, which are available on samiwunder.com, you will notice in early dating, I talk about the importance of value demonstration. Value demonstration is so important for men to keep pursuing you. And the minute you start to abandon yourself, the minute you start to place him higher than yourself— and it's very subconscious, like you're not doing this on purpose, nobody does this on purpose— but it's when you meet that person who you can see has potential and who you can see could be a good partner, this is when all this self-abandonment starts to happen. And as I said, men pick up on this. By the way, if this resonates, I would love to hear from you. In the comments section, tell me about a way that you are now reflecting that you self-abandoned. You know, there are so many ways to self-abandon. There was a guy I was dating when I was single, almost 11 years ago, who literally told me on date number 2, I don't like tiger prints or leopard prints, you know? And I was wearing a leopard print that day, and I was like, okay, this feels weird. But I remember being so conscious about not showing up on dates with him with any leopard print or tiger print. And I self-abandoned because I love leopard prints. Prince and Tiger Prince, but I self-abandoned in order to please him. Needless to say, it never worked out, but I think it's a great example of how we change ourselves and deprioritize ourselves in order to please men. That's when they really stop pursuing us, because we're not valuing ourselves. We're valuing them more, and their opinions more, and their needs more than our opinions and our needs. Now, reason #4 why he stopped chasing you. You accepted some really bad behaviors from him. You tolerated his BS. Now, again, this is very closely connected to Value Demonstration, which I talk about in Date Like a Diva program. When a woman doesn't draw boundaries, lets a man bulldoze through with whatever he wants or needs from her— let's say he wants to come over at midnight after the first date, and you know it's too soon, but you give in because he's asking for it. Now, he is starting to learn that if I push my way through with her, she'll accept it. So it's, again, low-value demonstration. Or maybe he touched you in a way that wasn't acceptable, or maybe he pushed your physical boundaries in a way that wasn't acceptable, but you went along with it, even though it was against your instinct or desire. So every time we accept that kind of behavior from men, men rank us lower in their heads. Now, I know this sounds harsh. I know that we don't want to hear how a man is evaluating us or ranking us, and I totally hear you. However, if you come at it from another perspective, if you see that actually, in dating, your job is to really just value yourself 100% of the time, you will understand why accepting or tolerating bad behavior from even a man you like is actually reducing your value in his eyes. And this is why you do not want to tolerate bad behavior. You do not want to You do not want to tolerate a man flirting with another woman in front of you. You do not want to tolerate a man showing up late on dates. You do not want to be okay with a man saying, I'll call you at this time, and then not calling you. It doesn't mean you have to throw a big drama. In my programs, I show you how to communicate in a way that men can actually hear. For those of you who want to check it out, Speak to His Heart is an amazing advanced romantic communication program that I have. But really understanding that your boundaries and your value communication to men, especially the ones you like, is so So important in order for them to not stop chasing you. Now, reason #5 he stopped chasing you, and after this, we'll get to how you can fix this, is you got in your masculine energy. Sometimes it looks very obvious. You started to turn the dynamic around. You started pursuing him. You started calling him. You started texting him. You thought one text wouldn't matter, so you sent that text first, and one call wouldn't matter, so you sent that call first. And when he didn't ask you out for a date, you were like, ah, it's okay, you know, I can just ask him, when are we meeting next? And so, without even realizing, you started to get into this chain reaction of getting more and more in your Masculine. And what happens is, subconsciously, the whole dynamic turns. Instead of him pursuing you, and instead of him chasing you, you become the one that subconsciously starts to chase him. And again, in the world of energy, men receive our energy, men receive our vibes. Our vibes don't lie. And so, when we're coming from that place of trying to make things happen, even though we may tell ourselves we're just doing it innocently, and one text doesn't hurt, and one call doesn't hurt, it actually starts to trickle down to the man as messages that, oh, you know, she's probably even more interested in me than I am interested in her. Or, if I drop the ball, this is the kind of woman who will pick up the ball and make things happen. So, so often with my clients, the ones we support inside our life coaching program, What we find is that, subconsciously, the tables turn when men have stopped chasing you. So when a man stops chasing you, ask yourself, where have I started getting more into my masculine energy around him? Where are the dynamics turning? Now, we are in the phase of the video where I want to talk about how you can fix this. So let's just say a guy has stopped chasing you and you like him. But of course, in the Sami Wunder world, you're not just going to go out, call him, and say, hey, when are we meeting again? Because that's just totally bulldozing in your masculine energy, and it never works. It rarely ever works. And the only rare, exceptional circumstances where behavior like that would work is when a woman is happy being with a man who is more in his feminine, and the man is very happy being led and driven by the woman, right? So unless that's the kind of relationship you're looking for, bulldozing your way into a man's world is truly not recommended and not something I would ever advise. Also, for the sake of your own dignity and self-respect, I think dating is all about value demonstration, and so you'd never, ever want to self-abandon your value, your worth, and start pursuing and chasing a man, no matter how much you like him. So what are your choices in this scenario? So if you were my client and we were working together, I would say 2 things are very important. The first one is visibility. So to be on top of a man's mind, visual visibility is really a great tool you can use to inspire him to reach out again, inspire him to remind him how amazing you are and what he's missing out on. But you don't do that by sending him texts or actively initiating communication. You do that by looking awesome and being visible in front of him. So maybe he's connected with you on your social media. Post glamorous pictures of your true life, having fun, looking your fabulous self. If he's on your WhatsApp, update your WhatsApp photographs, update your WhatsApp stories, You know, so many times, men will silently go watch these WhatsApp Stories, and if you're looking fabulous and they know you're single, that can be the trigger for them to reach out to you again. And the same for Instagram. If you're connected anywhere with men on all these online platforms, be visible in a bold and glamorous way, because men are very visual creatures. And that's one of the fastest ways to show a man that, even though he's not messaging you, you are living a great life and you are this awesome Gorgeous, feminine energy being that he is totally missing out on if he's not going to take action toward pursuing you. And the second thing you can do— so the first one is visibility, and it's big, like it's big, so don't discount it. This is really valuable information. Implement it to see the results. Number 2, I would say, go live your fabulous life. Maybe not the advice you want to hear. Maybe there is something your ego, maybe your masculine ego, wants you to do something, say something, start a conversation, manage something. But I can tell you, so many of my clients tell me that when they shifted the focus away from the guy, when they started rotational dating— I'll make more videos about this topic, but if you are interested in learning more about rotational dating, you can go to my website, samiwunder.com, and just type rotational dating in the blog section, and amazing content will show up. to support you understand rotational dating. But basically, start rotational dating and live your fabulous life and get your focus off this man. And so many times, when we don't need that person to validate us, when we don't need that man to chase us, when we don't need that man anymore to like us or to tell us we're amazing, that's when these men come around. Because we live in a vibrational universe, and when you move away from focusing on the lack of his effort into tuning back into how amazing you are and how all these other men are coming towards you and finding you desirable, and you're living this amazing life, and he's just one player among many players, he's just one player in a football team of amazing, good-looking footballers, all high on testosterone for you, then the attachment you feel reduces, and this is where you start winning. This is where you start feeling better. This is where you start feeling like the prize. So if he has stopped chasing you, try these tools: visibility, getting your focus off him, rotational dating, and just being your fabulous self. And then just surrendering and seeing what happens from that place. And so much magic happens from this place because you start to operate again in your prize feminine energy. So if this video was helpful, don't forget to give me a like. 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