Worried That You Make More Money Than Your Partner?

Woohoo! Hello, hello, Divas! This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder, and in this video, we are talking about the topic of money, and we are going to be speaking to the woman who is worried about making more money than her partner. Or making more money than a man. So we're going to be sharing with you a feminine woman's mindset when it comes to money. And believe it or not, we are on day 6 of the Feminine Energy Marathon. I am proud of myself for showing up every single day. You can be proud of yourself for showing up every single day. And given that we're on day 6 of the Feminine Energy Marathon, It also means that there's just 4 days left for Elevate to close its doors. And for those of you who haven't joined us yet, to remember to email us at support@samiwunder.com to talk about the program and explore whether it's right for you or not. So we have over 100 women. Woohoo! who've joined Elevate. We're so proud of these women. We're so proud of all of them for saying yes, and we'd love to have you inside if we can support you to have the relationship of your dreams, and if we can support you to heal your relationship and heal your marriage and make a good relationship great inside Elevate, because that's what we're so good at doing. Okay, so if you're joining me, say hi in the comments. Let me know where you're joining from. Send me some hearts, show me some love, and let me know you're watching. So I'm just gonna give it a moment for you ladies to say hi, and then we are going to dive straight away into talking about money and the attitude towards money that an empowered feminine energy woman has inside her romantic relationships. Hello, hello from London. Who else is here? It doesn't matter which platform you're joining me from. I'd love to hear from you. So where are you joining me from? And are you somebody who's already joined Elevate? If yes, say I've joined Elevate. I'd love to say hi and get to know you. If you are somebody who's considering joining Elevate, say considering joining Elevate. I'd love to get to know you. So just let's keep it interactive. It's been my only request that I don't feel like I'm talking to myself. So show me the love. Like this video. Say hi in the comments. And we are now ready to start. Okay, so who here is worried? That your relationship or marriage is going to collapse because you make more money than a man? If that is you, I would love to hear from you by saying yes in the comments. So say yes if you are worried that you make more money than a man and it's going to make your relationship collapse. Maybe you're not already in a relationship. Maybe you're single, and maybe you worry about revealing your income, your success, because you're worried that once a guy gets to know how much you make and what you do, he's going to feel emasculated. Who here has that fear? Which of the single ladies have that fear? Okay, wonderful. Thank you for sharing. I'm realizing that I can't see your names, but when I will go back to the social media platforms, I will definitely be answering you in person and connecting with you in person. Okay, so here's the thing. Statistically speaking, money has been shown to be one of the biggest reasons why couples fight and why relationships collapse. And why divorces happen. So if you feel like money is a charged topic for you, then you're not alone. Apparently, the majority of the world faces a very similar challenge. Money can be a very triggering topic in marriage and in relationships. So let's just check in with ourselves. Who here? has an emotional charge around money? And by an emotional charge around money, I mean, who here either feels very strong sense of scarcity around money, or feels extremely afraid about money, or feels afraid that because they make the money they make, it is going to be a serious threat to their relationship or personal life or romantic life? So who here feels this way? And by the way, everything is anonymous. So keep sharing, keep posting, keep talking to me. And meanwhile, I'll just tell you a little story. You know, I had this client inside Elevate back in 2017. So this is the 12th edition of Elevate that we're going to be running. And I remember her telling me that she had this amazing date with a guy. And everything was green and felt wonderful. And he was opening the door and he paid for the evening and for the dinner. And they kissed and it was wonderful. And he smelled so good. And my client was so happy till he decided to walk her back to her car. And when he did, and he saw her big red Mercedes standing there, she told me that immediately she felt that fear that now he's gonna not like me, now he's gonna judge me, now he's gonna, you know, make a comment about, you know, oh wow, how much money do you make? And so, if you feel this way as a successful, strong woman who makes money, I just want to assure you that you're not alone. And I will complete this story in just a moment. So what is important in this 10-minute livestream is not that, you know, I'm giving you all the how-tos, but that I'm helping you see things differently and shifting your mindset, shifting your fears. So what is most important to me is that right now, for those of you who are watching and listening live or on replay, that you check within yourself if you have this energetic fear that when you make more money, you will kill the attraction in your relationship, or you will emasculate the man in front of you. Because if you have this fear, this is the biggest thing that we have to shift. Okay? Because here's the thing. I believe that women, as women, when we are afraid, that making more money than our partners and making more money than a man that we like and love, when we believe that this is going to collapse our relationship or this is going to emasculate our man, we are buying into a fear that actually has been introduced into our minds through patriarchy. I mean, it's very patriarchal that today women believe that if they were to be more successful, and they were to make more money, they would lose the love and the joy they have in their personal romantic relationships. I have not come across a single man in my life who tells me that he is afraid that if he makes more money than his woman, she's going to feel emasculated. Or she's going to leave him. Men simply do not tell themselves that they can't have it all. They don't tell themselves that if they become more successful and make more money, then they will lose the love and happiness in their personal lives. But literally, the majority of women that I meet, that I coach, and that I work with tell me that they have this fear that if they became too successful, and they out-earned their husbands or their partners or their boyfriends, then this is going to make their marriage collapse. Now, is this resonating? And is this landing for you right now? Because this is big. And this is age-old patriarchal thinking probably passed down to us by our grandmothers, our foregrandmothers, where we were silently told in different ways, never outearn your man, never outearn a man, never hurt his ego by outearning him. And so what this has done is this, it has made us feel that our success is a curse. Our success is a burden, and our success will come to us at a very heavy cost. The cost of losing what is dear to us, the cost of emasculating the one that we love and that we want, you know, to be loved by in return. And in the Wunderworld, I simply do not subscribe to this way of thinking. I believe it's a very archaic way of thinking. I believe it's a very unhelpful way of thinking. I believe it's a very limiting way of thinking. Because ultimately, if you think of it this way, if having more money and having more success means that you are going to emasculate men and you are going to make them feel like less of a man, then basically this is the recipe of never being able to have it all. Because if you climb up the corporate ladder, if you build a successful business, then by definition, You will lose something in your personal life. You will not be able to have amazing success and amazing love. And therefore, this whole idea, this whole view that a relationship or a marriage will collapse when a woman makes more than her man is an archaic idea, and it's a very unhelpful idea, and it's an idea that actually makes women feel. Like their success is a curse. It's not a blessing. Is this resonating and is this landing? If it is, then I'm going to practice 20 seconds of silence and I want to hear from you because what I'm saying here is very powerful and I want feedback. You can give me feedback by letting me know this is resonating in the comments. You can give me feedback by liking this video and sharing with me how this makes you feel. Are you catching within yourself that you too have bought into the idea that if you were to become very successful, it would mean that your personal relationship will collapse? Thank you for sharing that it feels empowering and expansive. So here's the thing. In spite of what I've just said, the truth is that money continues to be a huge factor why marriages and relationships collapse, and will continue to collapse because a lot of people are triggered by money and a lot of people are not doing their inner work, right? It takes inner work to create conscious, connected relationships. And those of us who refuse to do our part of the work, we will keep hitting against our triggers, we will keep hitting against the same patterns, we will keep repeating those patterns. And so the truth is that money will continue to be the reason why a lot of relationships will collapse and do collapse, because people are not doing the inner work, people are not coming at their relationships in a conscious way. Yeah. And so what is the number one mindset shift that needs to happen for you as an empowered feminine energy woman? Yeah, when it comes to money, the number one mindset that you need to have and that you need to shift into is that money is just one of the things that is important in a relationship, and you making more than a man does not have the power to destabilize your relationship. You see, when my business started growing, and, you know, it grew from 6 figures to multi-6 figures to 7 figures to multi-7 figures. So we now are running a company with a multi-7-figure turnover every single year. And I realized that I did not have to make money such a big deal in my marriage, you know, that money is just one of the ways that— one of the things that's important in a relationship. And I did not have to hold the fear that suddenly making more money than my husband— he used to be the provider and the breadwinner when we got married. And then my business just grew and grew and grew. And we do great work and, you know, get great results for our clients. And, um, you know, I'm out-earning my husband, and I just completely released the fear that money has the power to destabilize the polarity in my relationship, that money has the power to reduce my husband's attraction for me in the relationship, that money has the power to emasculate my man. You see, I'm married to a very secure, self- assured, confident, empowered masculine man. And for him, he's proud of my success. And the two of us just don't buy into the BS belief that if a woman suddenly starts to make more money than her husband or her boyfriend, then something bad is going to happen in the relationship. Now, of course, The questions I get from a lot of my Elevate clients are the following. So Sami, if you make more than your husband, how do you both manage the money? Are you the primary breadwinner? And the funny thing is, I'm not. I'm not the primary breadwinner in my family. And I reveal to you inside Elevate, you know, what is the model that me and my husband follow that actually keeps the attraction alive, keeps the polarity alive in our relationship, you know, helps me be the strong, successful woman that I am in the marriage, in the relationship, in my career, helps him be, you know, the, uh, a provider, a loving, giving, generous, you know, father and husband in the relationship. So inside Elevate, you know, especially for those of you who are in a relationship or married. I speak in depth about the financial models that are available, the various choices that are available to us as women, and how you can arrange your money within a relationship so that it's not impacting the attraction, the sex, the intimacy, the polarity. I also reveal to you how I manage my own money in the Financial Blueprint Masterclass inside Elevate. I also show you the top mistakes that women make when it comes to money. Because as I said before, money continues to be an area of conflict for so many people, so many women. And so I show you that, you know, what happens when women come to me and say, Sami, I've started to make more and more money, and I've started to see more and more disconnection with my man. I've started to see that he's starting to feel dull in front of me. He's starting to feel insecure in front of me. He's starting to feel emasculated in front of me. So I actually teach, you know, what are the top mistakes women make when it comes to, you know, out-earning a man and, you know, how you're showing up and how that impacts negatively your relationship. Because as a relationship expert, I can literally count on my fingers the 5 different ways women show up where Incidentally, they do end up emasculating their man, and it has nothing to do with their success. It has nothing to do with the money they make. It has everything to do with the way they communicate. It has everything to do with the way they show up in their marriages and their relationships. But the good news is that with awareness and with education, you can shift all of this. Like, you can literally enter a relationship and feel so secure And feel so empowered in the way you have conversations about money, in the way you do money, in the way you have beliefs about money. And I think the biggest shift that I can invite all of you to make— and I will finish with this, I'm aware of the time— the biggest shift I'm going to invite you all to make is to release the fear that money has to make your marriage collapse. or out-earning your man has to make your relationship collapse. And to finish the story that I started with at the start of this livestream, my client was afraid that the man she had all green signals from is going to look at her Mercedes-Benz and go like, oh my God, like, I'm with a CEO. You know, how much do you make? And instead, she was amazed when he said, oh my God, what an amazing car. Can I test out the engine? And he actually sat inside, tested the engine. They had a laugh and he kissed her. And today they are happily married. 6 months, I think it was 6 months later, he proposed and now they're happily married. And I remember her coming and sharing the story with me because She did Elevate, and she, you know, we talk about money inside Elevate. And she was like, oh my God, Sami, like everything you say is so true that, you know, if we heal our fears, a whole new world opens up to us. And earlier she used to carry her success as a burden. Now it's a different story. You know, she gets to be successful and she gets to be amazing. She's, you know, a mom. They've bought a huge palace together, she and her man. And he's a CEO, she's a CEO, but she still out-earns him. And it somehow doesn't matter. Like, it doesn't matter in the big scheme of things. And this is the healing work we do inside Elevate. It's super duper powerful. These are the last 4 days you can join the program. The place to email us if you are joining the program is support@samiwunder.com. If you have questions about the program, email me. This is the last time ever that you will see Elevate at its current price of $555 USD or euros. You can pay in any currency that works for you. And this also means that once the doors close, the next offer you will see for Elevate would be $888. So for a lot of you, this is really the time to jump in and to give yourselves permission to do this for yourself. If you believe in the power of coaching, if you believe in the power of education, if you believe that as human beings, when we are held, supported, and coached, we can create better outcomes for ourselves and in our love lives, then I invite you to join Elevate. Not a lot of time is left. I really encourage you to not delay your decision anymore. 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And me and my team inside Elevate can't wait to reveal to you the secrets that have helped over 400 of our clients walk down the aisle, hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of others attract healthy, committed relationships, and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of others elevate their relationships, elevate their marriages, and reach a whole new level of joy, love, and connection in their relationships. So if Elevate is calling you, it's the 12th edition of the program. We've run it 11 times before. We have amazing women from all backgrounds inside Elevate. We have celebrities and CEOs, and we have, we have teachers and doctors and engineers and managers. We have women who are 35 years old to women who are 65 years old. And we are one of the most loving, amazing communities online on the planet. So if you are feeling called to this, just know that your soul is nudging you in the right direction. And today, right now, is to take action. Hope to see you inside Elevate. Lots of love. Bye-bye and take care.