Scott Perry outlines a three-step decision-making framework: Notice your reaction, Name it without judgment, then Navigate by choosing small next steps. He explains why good decisions can still yield bad results, and why consistency over time matters more than any single choice.
One of my favorite frameworks is Notice, Name, Navigate. Notice what's going on. Notice how you're, you know, if you're having a reaction to what's going on. If notice, you know, what false beliefs and biases are being triggered, what emotional reactions are being triggered. Bring your conscious awareness into the here and now. And again, notice what's going on after you notice it. And again, most of the time we don't notice, we just react and we just are running our default programming and conditioning. But if you bring your conscious awareness in and notice what's going on, you can then name what's going on. The name is very specific. You don't— name does not mean listen to the narration in your head. The narration in your head is, oh, woe is me, why is the is the world conspiring against me? Why are people trying to impede my progress? You know, why can't I get up? That's not naming. That's a narrative. Naming is strip away all the adjectives and adverbs, all the value judgments. You know, tell your biases to sit in the back seat for a minute and name what's going on as plainly as possible. No adjectives, no adverbs, no value judgments. And then navigate is moving into this other piece that I've, I've talked about around making decisions better is navigating requires you to employ your power of perception. So it's, it's, uh, it's changing the way that you see things and then taking a look at all of your options and keeping in mind what it is that you want. Make— take the next smallest step into that possibility. And then the, the third piece of the navigation step is, um, remember what matters. What matters is the quality of your intentions and integrity, the quality of the, the, the way that you think about and, and act upon your decision. Decisions are not outcomes. And so, um, the only thing that actually matters, the only actual reward is trust, your ability to trust yourself, to trust the process, and to, um, and to, uh, accept whatever destiny has designed for what happens next. And just one quick note on this decision-making thing. Remember the decision-making matrix. You can make a really good decision and get a really bad result. You can make a really bad decision and get a really good, good result. Those things don't make sense to us. Like if you make a bad decision and get a bad result, duh, like, of course, if you make a really good decision to get a really good result? Of course. But we get really tripped up when we make a really good decision and get a really bad result. And we look at the people that make a really bad decision and get a good result, and then we start saying, well, maybe I should do it that way. You don't want to do that, right? Just if you consistently make decisions better, time and randomness become your allies. Sooner or later, things will start to happen. The breaks will start to go your way, or more breaks more often than not will go your way than the other way around.
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