Scott Perry argues that purpose isn't fixed but evolves over time. Stop seeking external validation and look inward instead. Take micro-steps to discover what matters, drawing on mentors like Stephen Cope and the Bhagavad Gita.
And if we can acknowledge and name our biases and some of the ways that we're creating our own drama in our lives, we can then start to untangle it. And I call this stop looking out the window and start looking in the mirror. And Scott Perry is one of the people here that will recognize that from our mentors in the Guardian Academy. Oftentimes we are always looking outward. We're seeking external instruction, we're seeking external validation, and we are seeking who to blame for our own happiness or our confusion or our pain and suffering by looking out the window at who can we— who are the perpetrators here? Who are the people that are sabotaging? Our desires and needs and wants and goals. But the fact of the matter is, the only way that you're going to stop playing the blame game, the only way that you're going to stop or escape the identity trap is if you start taking a hard look at yourself in the mirror. So I like to say, when people, you know, when clients come to me and they say, I need to find myself. There's this idea that somewhere out the window is my calling, is my purpose, is the work I'm meant to do now, whatever you want to call it. Some people, you know, if you're a Simon Sinek fan, maybe you think that that calling or that purpose is inside you and you need some help excavating it. My assertion is it's not out there and it's not in here. It's, uh, you don't need to go find yourself. You need to face yourself. And if you take a hard look in the mirror and you start asking yourself some, um, challenging questions, but questions that will reward you with greater clarity about who you really are and what you're really good at and where you really belong, you can actually micro-step your way into a purpose. So I'm a person that doesn't believe any Nobody was born to be and do any one thing. I don't believe in what Simon says. Your purpose is not fixed at age 20 and it's yours for the rest of your life. I think that's absolute and utter BS. Your purpose will iterate and evolve over time because guess what? You're an iterating, evolving human. I love what my friend Stephen Cope says. Stephen Cope wrote the book The Great Work of Your Life. It's a book about purpose based on the Bhagavad Gita, one of my favorite books. And he says that your calling is your gift intersecting with the times, the moment that you're in. And that if you have this sense of, you know, who you are around values and guiding principles and maybe vision of the kind of world you want to live in, and you have explored some of your talents and gifts, not the hard skills that you learned in school and on the job, but the natural instincts, intuition, just the things that you've always had a natural proclivity for and a natural talent for, then you can start stepping into or creating a purpose for yourself.
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