SHAMSUDIN HAKIMI help you break the Love Pattern that keeps choosing the wrong person.

4 Signs You're a 'Chaser' in Relationships(1)

1 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief self‑help segment, the speaker outlines four behavioral patterns that identify someone as a "chaser" in romantic contexts. The first sign is habitually initiating contact—texting first about 80% of the time. The second sign is heightened attraction to partners who pull away, leading to obsession when the other person is distant and boredom when they are present. The third sign is "negotiating for love," the belief that increasing effort will make the partner choose you. The fourth sign is staying in a situation well beyond its natural expiration, lingering in a non‑relationship for years. Listeners are invited to self‑reflect on these signs to recognize chaser tendencies.

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Let me give you four signs. You're a chaser. Sign number one, you always text first. Like, 80% of the time, you're the one initiating sign two, you're more attracted when they pull away. When they're distant, you're obsessed. When they're not showing you enough attention, when they're present, you're bored. You think that if I just do more, they'll choose me. You're negotiating for love. Sign number four is you stay way past the expiration date, your years in this situation, that never becomes a relationship. If you're nodding your head right now, like, yeah, that's me, or that's me, any one of them signs, then you're a chaser.